Tuesday, 21 February 2017

Comparing Yourself to Others

We all get stuck in ruts from time to time. A common rut that girlsespecially seem to get stuck in, is comparing their life and/or feelings to others. 

If you've read my blog before, you will have heard this: You are your own person, you are no one else, and that is special. Someone else out there, whether you know them or not, admires you, and most likely compares their life to your life

A lot of girls are in denial of this. If you're self conscious, or struggle with low self esteem, you are probably thinking, 'pfft as if anyone wants to be like me,' or 'as if anyone wants my life.' Well, someone does! Because naturally, everyone wants what they don't have.  

A good way of resetting your feelings, and changing your negative thoughts into positive ones, is to view yourself from the outside. You can do this through meditation, before you fall to sleep, or just in everyday life. Imagine yourself floating out of your body, and viewing yourself from above. 

Start complimenting yourself. (And no, this is not up-yourself or vain to do!) Be kind to yourself. What physical things do you like about yourself? Maybe it's your hair, or your legs, maybe it's your fashion. What about personally? Maybe you like how you accept everyone, that you're a hard worker, or that you make everyone feel welcome? While you're looking at yourself from another perspective, pick every single thing you like about yourself, as if you are viewing someone else. We have no problem complimenting other people, so why do we have issues complimenting ourselves? 

After you have done this, you need to become thankful for those things that you noticed about yourself. Gratitude is one of the most important factors in the Law of Attraction. Being gracious puts you on a high positive frequency immediately. Staying gracious will keep you on this positive frequency, and soon the positivity will start bouncing back at you. You will know when you're on the right frequency, because you will feel GOOD! 

Same thing goes for feelings. We all feel differently, and we all respond to situations differently. For me, I remember times where I haven't understood why someone was so happy or so angry in certain situations. A. It's not our business, and B. We have no idea why other people feel the way they feel. I am a big believer in the saying, 'Be kind, for everyone you meet, is fighting a battle you know nothing about.' Next time you're about to compare your feelings to others, or feel that you might be about to judge someone regarding their feelings, say that quote over in your head. 

Another thing, is to not let other people's emotions affect you. You are not them, and therefore, it is not your problem. Of course helping someone who is in a tough situation is a great idea, but don't let their emotions, affect your emotions. Help where needed, and then remove yourself from that situation. Look after yourself.  

The last thing I want to talk about is; your own feelings. Never question why you feel a certain way. I have found myself comparing my feelings to others after we have been in the same or similar situation. That's a way to drag yourself into a deep hole of negativity! You're allowed to be sad, you're allowed to be angry and you're allowed to be negative! On your own terms. It's normal and sometimes refreshing to let it all out! BUT, just don’t wallow in it. Let the feelings out and move on.

Overall, you are you for a reason. Whether you believe me or not, there are people out there who are envious of an aspect in your life, just like you're envious of other people's lives. View yourself from an outside perspective, be proud of who you are, and be kind to yourself. You are perfect and amazing just how you are! 

Cleo xx