What shapes you as a person is how you REACT to the not so good things in life.
Some people believe that because certain things in life are out of our control, that everything is out of our control. Very wrong. It's been scientifically proven for decades and decades that the Law of Attraction is just as powerful as the Law of Gravity. You just need to know how to use it. So technically, nothing is out of our control, but we are all human and can't constantly be positive, so it's very hard to control EVERYTHING in our lives.
Like attracts like... this means that positive energy attracts positive things. Which means when you're positive, you WILL attract positivity and great outcomes.
You know when you're able to get yourself to that state of pure happiness? Where everything is great? You're thankful for everything and feeling on top of the world? ... When you get yourself to that state, see what you attract! The results are pretty incredible!
Sometimes we can be on a positivity roll! One good thing happens so you feel good, and things start snowballing your way. One good thing after another. Sometimes in the middle there, something crappy might happen. Most of the time when bad things happen it makes sense. You could be in a bad mood, or you're saying negative things, you might be judging yourself or just feeling down. All of these things attract negative things, so it makes sense that a negative situation or circumstance would come your way.
In saying that, sometimes it doesn't make sense. One thing you can't control is other people. Sometimes other people's actions might hurt you, or change your mood, or affect you in some way. How you react to these things make you WHO YOU ARE. You are the only person who defines you, and you are the only person who can decide whether you're having a good or a bad day. Try your hardest not to let these negative circumstances affect you. Accept it, deal with it, be thankful for it, and move on. (I know being thankful for something negative seems weird, but gratitude is one of the fastest ways to speed up the process of the Law of Attraction.)
Sometimes it's comfortable to wallow in your bad mood. It's easy to stay mad, to have a cry or to get some attention. But you aren't helping yourself at all! Get yourself out of that state straight away, and look at the situation from an outsiders point of view. Someone is always worse off than you. Yes, what has happened sucks, but it's time to move on and change the frequency you're projecting so you can make room for good things to come your way.
The amount we learn from negative situations and circumstances is amazing. There are so many things I look back on, and at the time I thought it was the worst thing in the world, and I was so mad and negative about it, and now I see why it happened! Everything happens for a reason, there aren't any 'coincidences' in this world, everything that happens to you has been sent to you from the Universe for a reason. I have learnt so much from all the negative things in my life that have happened.
Try and make a huge effort when negative things do happen to move on as quickly as possible, forget about it, don't look back and do your best to get positive again!
"It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters."