Reject Rejection

 
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REJECTION. A word that brings on fear for almost anyone.

How you perceive rejection is your choice. You can choose to feel sorry for yourself, fear that you’ve wasted your time, fall into a pattern of self doubt and second guess everything you did, or you can be thankful for what you learnt along the way, remind yourself that it isn’t personal, and believe that this rejection is just making room so that something better can make its way into your life.

I’m here to tell you, that you’re way too good to be rejected. By anyone, or anything. I’m here to tell you, that you have every right to reject rejection! However, keep in mind that sometimes we’re meant to be rejected. Sometimes the rejection is fair or right. By ‘rejecting rejection,’ I mean two different things depending on the situation; 1. To stand up for yourself if you know in your heart it’s right and worth fighting for, and 2. To accept that whatever has rejected you has happened for a reason, and move forward with optimism, knowing that the Universe has your back.

Just like dwelling on negativity has its risks, dwelling on rejection does too, because essentially, rejection is negative, and we all know that when we focus on the negative we attract the negative. Choose to stand up for yourself and fight for what you strongly believe is right, or choose to let it go.

So, how do we know if we should fight or let it go? Well, you’re the only person who can decide that, and I believe you can get the answer by listening to your heart. It’s one of the most powerful human skills we can learn and the most reliable source when seeking answers. How many times have you thought ‘ahhh, I should have listened to my gut?!’ Often, our initial gut feeling is correct, and we have to learn to listen intuitively to ourselves, in order to live a free flowing life. We also have to take who or what is rejecting us into account. If it’s a person, often we need to respect their decision. In saying that, some relationships, friendships or work relationships are worth fighting for. If you lose out on getting a job, a promotion or don’t win a competition or an award, sometimes it’s best to let it go. However in some circumstances, if you really feel it’s right, fight for it!

As Gabby Bernstein says, ‘obstacles are detours in the right direction.’ Sometimes rejection, no matter how bad, wrong or unfair it seems at the time, will end up for the better. Majority of the time it does. It might be so you can learn valuable life lessons like, patience, gratitude, forgiveness or true love. It might be so that you can meet the right person, or get the right job, it might allow you to spend more time on an assignment or project so it leads to a better result which will then lead to something else! The Universe always has a better plan and can see possibilities that we can’t yet see.

There are so many reasons as to why you may be rejected in your lifetime. Choose to look at it through the eyes of optimism rather than through the eyes of fear and disappointment.

Self-love and the Law of Attraction also come into play with rejection. Often we can attract rejection through the fear of being rejected. It is completely natural, but to eliminate rejection from your life, you must change your thought process. Start by practicing self-love. Make time to meditate, journal and say your thank you’s for who you are and what you love about yourself. Do whatever it takes to become more confident in your own skin, skills and personality. If you feel like you need to practice more self-love, check out my blog on it here.

The Law of Attraction is an incredible way to focus on the positives, on what you do want, instead of what you don’t want. With the Law of Attraction, you can eliminate all thoughts of ‘fearing rejection’ by replacing them with thoughts of landing the job, winning the award, falling in love etc. Next time you find yourself in a negative thought pattern, worrying about getting rejected and not being good enough, GET RID OF IT! Focus on how competent, amazing, incredible and deserving you are of great relationships, opportunities and circumstances. More on the Law of Attraction in another blog here.

Rejection provides an opportunity to grow, learn and become a more understanding, patient and hardworking human. If you look hard enough, there are always positives in a negative! - pass around the smile

Cleo xx

 
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Living a Guilt Free Life

Guilt is something that nobody wants to feel. It can bring on feelings of anxiety, stress and anger, along with negative thoughts and actions. Basically all the feelings which won’t allow us to live a positive and free flowing life.

If you lie, judge, purposely hurt others, cheat or put others down, you have a reason to feel guilty. If everything you are doing is through a kind, loving and giving heart, then you don’t have a reason to feel guilty. So why not aim to never feel guilty? I’m not saying do bad things and just choose not to feel guilty about it, I’m saying, choose to do and be good and you won’t have to feel guilty! It’s a win, win.

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

A lot of us feel guilt when we have no reason to, and that’s what I can’t wait to write about in today’s blog! My New Year Resolution for 2019 is ‘learn to say no without feeling guilty about it!’ It’s super hard to keep up, but I am loving the challenge and I think it’s something a lot of people need to work on.

How many times have you said or done something you regret and you feel a little bit of guilt kick in? Next minute that little bit of guilt has got you feeling anxious, and then that anxiety has you coming up with the worst possible scenarios in your mind and all of a sudden you’re in a completely negative mindset and feeling overwhelmed? Or maybe it’s about something you didn’t do? You didn’t go to that exercise class, didn’t go to that work meeting, or didn’t go to that party and that yucky feeling of guilt starts to kick in and it’s a downward spiral from there.

If you can relate to feeling guilty for some of the reasons above, and you were never doing or not doing these things to intentionally hurt others, then I am here to say, you have no reason to feel guilty!

I have broken down some aspects of life where I find most people (including myself) will feel guilty for no good reason. I hope this can inspire you to kick those guilty feelings to the curb and live a life where you feel comfortable doing, saying or not doing and not saying WHATEVER YOU WANT!

DIET

This is a big one. How often do you feel guilty about what you eat? Or maybe how much alcohol you consume? I believe eating a healthy diet is so important for our health and overall wellbeing and so is setting goals and having boundaries. However, I hear and see so many people beating themselves up when they mess up their diet, or have a second helping, drink too much alcohol etc.

This is your life and you need to enjoy every minute of it. You ate or drank whatever it was, because at the time, you wanted it! So be it. It’s done, end of story. Why waste time worrying and getting upset over something that can’t be changed?

I’m not one for diets because I don’t like feeling restricted. I also fear that if I have restrictions I will disappoint myself if I fail. So I chose another way of dieting. Instead of having ‘don’t eats’ I have ‘do eats.’ I turned a negative diet into a positive diet. I hope this can inspire you, but I totally understand this isn’t for everyone, some people love a restrictive diet, and I say go you!

MY DIET:

- 2 Litres of water a day

-Vegetables or salad in my lunch and dinner

-Two pieces of fruit

And that’s it! By the time I achieve all of this, there actually isn’t too much time left to eat naughty foods! While I have some ‘musts,’ in my diet, I’m not left feeling restricted, instead, I’m motivated to tick it all off. And if I get to my goal of eating and drinking all of this goodness, I will allow myself guilt free to have a treat or a little too much pasta, hehe.

EXERCISE

I believe moving your body is super important, but I also believe listening to your body is super important! With social media, it’s so easy to compare your fitness journey to incredibly fit people who are constantly posting their workouts. But it’s important that you, do you!

Like my diet, I also have my goals with exercise, however they’re flexible goals. I used to feel really guilty if I skipped a workout, but now when I’m tired, sore or just not feeling it, I will either skip it and not give the guilty feelings any attention or go for a walk instead. I definitely recommend coming up with an easier alternative, because at least then, you’re still moving your body!

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

WORK

Whether you work for yourself or for someone else, it’s easy to let those guilty feelings creep in. Maybe your presentation wasn’t up to scratch? Maybe you called in sick for the third day in a row? Maybe you procrastinated all day? Maybe you had to get stern with co-workers or your staff members?

It comes down to the same message. If you’re doing these things with a good heart and for good reason, you shouldn’t have to feel guilty. If you had a day where you procrastinated or your work wasn’t up to scratch, it’s okay! Sometimes the most productive way forward is to stop and rest! We also wouldn’t have ‘productive days’ if we didn’t have ‘un-productive days.’ Everyone goes through stages where they’re not motivated, happy or proactive at work, so when you’re going through these periods, don’t make it worse by allowing yourself to feel guilty, ride the wave and let yourself feel how you feel.

SOCIAL OCCASIONS

This is a huge one for me, and it’s the biggest reason for my New Year resolution of ‘saying no without feeling guilty.’ It is absolutely, 100%, a-okay to not want to go out to a social occasion every now and then. It’s also completely acceptable to just say, ‘no thanks, I don’t feel like it, or ‘I just really need some chill time at home.’

For those of you that have FOMO (fear of missing out), in the scheme of things, missing one social occasion is nothing. Do yourself a favour and rest. If you force yourself to go to something when you don’t want to, you’re likely going to turn up, subconsciously angry about being there. Your negative vibes will affect the other people, and you will probably end up saying or doing things that you will regret. On that note ….

WORDS & ACTIONS

What about the times where we did say something that was maybe inappropriate, rude, nasty or judgmental? Sometimes it is very fair to feel guilty about those things, and I definitely encourage you to apologise or at least recognise what you didn’t like about your behaviour.

But sometimes words or actions can come across negatively or wrong, when you’re trying to do something good. For example: sticking up for someone, or backing yourself up. Or maybe you said or did something that was a bit out there, or awkward? You must remember that you are you. Some of us are out there, awkward, sensitive or protective and that is okay! It’s so important to understand why you, yourself do or say certain things, and why our family and friends do or say certain things. If it is coming from a loving place, then you do not need to feel guilty. Even if it was embarrassing, awkward or negative, did you do anything wrong?! Or were you just being you? Sometimes our innocent words or actions can put other people out, or make them feel upset, embarrassed or angry and that’s not your problem, it’s theirs.

SPENDING

Money comes and goes. This is your life, and you get to choose how to spend your money that you work hard earning. Of course some people are better off than others, some people have more responsibility than others, but it’s important to enjoy this life and use your money to make you and your loved ones feel good.

A tip I have with spending and not feeling guilty, is using mantras. For those of you who read my blogs, you will know how much of an impact a positive mantra can have on your life! 'Money is constantly flowing to me,’ ‘I have more money than I could ever need,’ ‘I can afford this.’ Using these mantras is great, but believing these mantras is incredible, and not only will you not feel guilty about spending money every now and then, you will also attract more money into your life!

I hope you enjoyed today’s blog! Please hit the love heart button if you did and feel free to get in contact if you have any questions! Thanks so much for reading and I hope you have a guilt free day!

Cleo xx

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

Becoming YOU - Being Fearlessly Yourself

Becoming who we really are takes time, courage and mistakes.

You might be thinking, I know who I am - which is amazing, or you might be thinking I have no idea who I am, or what I need to do to make myself happy. Even if you know who you are, keep reading … because to be FEARLESSLY you is a whole other ball game.

Becoming You

A lot of the time, we do things that aren’t necessarily aligned with who we are. You might be peer pressured into doing something you don’t want to do, you might gossip or judge someone because you’re jealous, you might post a certain photo on social media because you feel like that’s what society wants.

All of these unfortunately are natural reactions and you have nothing to feel guilty about, but you can pinpoint the times where you’re not yourself and work on changing them. Ask yourself these questions … Who am I? What do I want? Like, REALLY want? What do I care about? Who do I care about?

As cliche as it sounds, listening to your heart is the most powerful thing you can do. BUT listening to your heart is actually quite hard, because we confuse what our heart actually desires, with the cheaper option, or the safer option, the more comfortable option etc. To really listen to your heart, I recommend meditating. Even if it’s for 2 minutes. Quiet your mind and really ask yourself, who am I and what do I want?

You have been given this life. Don’t waste a minute of it trying to be someone else, doing things to impress people or worrying about what people think. Which leads us into …

Being Fearlessly Yourself

After doing all you can to become YOU, you need to become fearlessly YOU.

Today I was sitting at the beach and I was so intrigued watching all the young kids play. They are SO themselves and I think we should take note! They don’t know judgement, so they don’t care what people think, they aren’t self conscious, so they dance, yell, sing and play like no one is watching, they believe nothing is impossible, so they use their imaginations and play for hours and they fearlessly speak their mind. Why do we loose this? Because we care too much what others think? Because we don’t know who we are anymore? Because we think we need to be serious and sensible? Because we’re trying to impress people? We all need to acknowledge our inner child and let it shine through!

“What other people think of you, is none of your business.”

When you’re in alignment with who you are, everything will flow. You will be clear in what you believe, what you think is right or wrong, who and what you care about and you will effortlessly give your energy and time to those things.

When you’re being YOU, like… really you, make no apologies! When we’re feeling self conscious, unsure, pressured or just generally not ourselves, we make mistakes and regret things, but when you’re YOU, everything you do or say is coming from who you are as a person.

Sometimes when you do get the courage to be truly yourself, you are met with judgement because other people are threatened by you loving and accepting yourself. Probably because they haven’t learnt to do it for themselves. Becoming you and owning it is the most important thing you could do in this life of yours. Because being fearlessly yourself, is also showing an immense amount of gratitude for your life and who you are. This immediately puts you on a high vibrating frequency. When you’re vibrating on a high level, you’re attracting people, circumstances and things which are vibrating on that same level. So basically you’re attracting positive, exciting and amazing things!

Becoming you might mean changing quite a few things in your life, but like I said before, do not apologise for this. If you’re met with judgement on decisions you truly want to make, then that isn’t your problem - it’s theirs.

A fun little story to end with. My Mum was walking along the beach, and suddenly she saw this lady who would have been in her 40s go from a casual beach walk, into a cartwheel. Mum loved it and said to the lady, ‘I saw your cartwheel.’ And the lady said back ‘yeah, I just felt like it!'' I think we all need to be more like that lady. Feel like doing something? Bloody do it!

Start now, so that later you can look back and know that in this life, you were fearlessly yourself. Only good things can come from being truly you.

I hope this blog can help you in some way! Please remember to subscribe on my ‘contact’ page if you want positivity sent straight to your inbox, and hit the little love heart if you enjoyed this blog!

Cleo xx

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