Self Love 101

Loving yourself completely, will change everything. 

It's time to be the best version of YOU, and to do that you have to absolutely, whole heartedly love and believe in yourself like crazy. It's not vain to do so, it's actually humble. Show thanks to the Universe, God, Buddha (whoever you believe in), that you're so thankful that they made you, YOU. 

We all have special qualities, features and characteristics which make us individual. It's natural to compare, judge and hate on ourselves for the things that make us feel ugly, self conscious or not good enough. What a lot of people don't realise, is hiding these things, or hating on these things, does not do us any favours. In this blog, I am going to help you with a few techniques and examples to transform your views and ideas of yourself.

"Demonstrate love by giving it, unconditionally, to yourself. And as you do, you will attract others into your life who will love you without conditions." - Paul Ferrini 
 
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YOU

First things first. YOU are incredible. There is someone in this world, whether you know them or not, who admires you. They might admire your sense of humour, your hair, your style, your legs or your charisma. Just like you admire things about other people, people admire things about you. 

I don't know about you, but there have been a few times where I have said something like 'uhh, my hair looks so dry,' or 'this dress doesn't suit my body type,' and whoever I'm with, will have the complete opposite opinion. Not because they're lying to make me feel better, but because we are all SO picky and hard on ourselves, and majority of the time nobody else would notice or care about these tiny things we obsess and feel self conscious over. Think about it the other way around. How many times has a friend said something and you've thought 'I have never even noticed that spot on your face,' or 'I love your freckles, I can't believe you hate them!'

Next time you're feeling self conscious about something, remind yourself that you are the only one judging. (If other people are judging, then you don't need those people in your life, and judging only comes from jealousy.)

EXAMPLE: I used to absolutely hate the gap in my two front teeth and I was willing to spend thousands on braces to get rid of it. I was holding off because of money and auditions, and in the meantime, I started to notice a lot of people complimenting my gap. Now, other people's opinions shouldn't change yours, but in this instance it made me feel a little more confident. I forgot about it for a while, and I started to make an effort to love my gap. I would see it in photos, and instead of looking at it with disgust, I would look at it and be thankful. I liked that it was different and I liked how it shaped my face. Overtime, I genuinely and completely learned to love and accept my gap!
 
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An exercise to assist Self Love 

Lie down alone, somewhere quiet and peaceful. Close your eyes, and focus on your breathing. Once you have come to a place of calm, imagine yourself standing in an empty room. See yourself come out of your body, and rise above. You're now looking down at you, but from an outsiders point of view. You're not you anymore, so you don't have to feel uncomfortable complimenting yourself. Now go crazy. Really look at yourself, and force yourself to realise what you love about yourself. When you see something you don't like, be thankful for it and force yourself to see the beauty in it. 

Self love doesn't just make you feel comfortable in your own skin, it also opens you up to so many more opportunities, relationships and circumstances that you block when you're in a state of self consciousness. Now, you're not going to change, unless you truly want to change. Decide that feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin and attracting amazing new opportunities and people is important to you. This literally makes me so excited writing this! I can't wait until you see changes! 

YOU are the most important person in your life

Again, this is not selfish. YOU are the most important person in your life, because in order to help and be there for the ones you love, you have to be completely happy and in tune with yourself. To do this, you have to love yourself. Self love needs to be a priority. If everyone loved and accepted themselves, there would be no competing and no judgement. When you're happy within yourself and in a state of alignment and gratitude, you're constantly giving love, positivity and happiness, and the world needs more of that.

Because she competes with no one, no one can compete with her. - Lao Tze
 
Live Your Life - Law of Attraction
 

Help others love themselves! 

Helping other people feels good, and when you help others it will always come back to you. I make an effort to compliment my family, friends and strangers as much as I can. Not only does it boost their confidence and put a smile on their face, but it also helps you have realisations about yourself that you might not have been open to before. 

Forgive your mistakes.

We all make mistakes, big and small. While exploring self love, you must remember to be kind to yourself and easily forgive. It's very easy to stress and feel guilty over something you've done, but I'm here to tell you something... that is a waste of time and energy! You made that mistake for a reason, and one day soon it will all make sense. For now... be kind, forgive yourself and move on. 

Protect yourself and your energy! 

Be careful who you surround yourself with! Make a conscious effort to limit negative situations and people in your life. If you have to be in these situations or around these people, KILL THEM WITH POSITIVITY AND KINDNESS! (And try your best to not let them drain or affect your amazing energy!) 

 
Positivity Self Love Cleo Massey
 

Enjoy life!

We feel good when we're doing things that make us happy right?! It's much easier to practice self love when you're surrounded by the people and situations you want! So get yourself to that! Do whatever it takes to get the job you want, surround yourself with the people that lift you up, not bring you down! Create a life that YOU love. Don't worry about what others think. It's a pretty amazing world, and we can make of it whatever we like. 

Have fun, be bold, be YOU!

Cle xxx 

Finding the Right Path For You

Finding your path can be super easy, or super hard, it can take you your whole life, or you can fall into it straight away. There are a lot of people who are happy (enough) with their lives, but please don't confuse this with being HAPPY. Is 'happy enough', enough?

You have a path out there that is made for you, all you have to do is find it and when you do, it feels right and so damn good!  

 
Cleo Massey - Happiness in the Sunflower Fields - Gold Coast/NSW
 

Now, making sure you don't confuse 'feels right' with 'right' is hard, because even if you're on the right path you can still have good days and bad days, good moods and bad moods and you can still make mistakes and be riddled with self doubt. So how do we know if we're on the right path?

A few things to keep in mind are:

  • Your talents
  • Your desires and dreams
  • Coincidences 
  • Repetitious signs 
  • Whatever you're scared of (This is usually where your passion lies!) 
 
Sunflower Fields - Farm & Co - Kingscliff, New South Wales. (On border of Gold Coast Queensland) 
 

A lot of people are in careers which make them feel comfortable, stable, and relaxed and I can see why, all of those are great feelings! Yet a lot of these people aren't stepping up within their career or switching careers because of insecurities, money, self doubt and fear. Some people assume they're on the right path and get comfortable, not realising there is another path more suited to them waiting to be walked on.

You might feel like you are on the right path because the job you're in is giving you the money you need to feed your family, or maybe your parents were in the same field so it's 'right' to take over the business, maybe you fell into the job and keep easily working your way up because you're not challenged? All of these are very valid reasons to stay where you are and never settle for anything else, but let me tell you about my journey! 

 
Cleo Massey - H20 Just Add Water - Pass Around the Smile. Actress, blogger, screen writer, speaker
 

When I was 11 I got my first acting role on a series called 'H20 Just Add Water.' I filmed this series for four years and I can't tell you how right it felt! I was in my element, I loved acting, set was half an hour away from my home, I met life long friends and contacts, and it gave me the boost I needed in my career.

When things are right, nothing stands in your way and everything flows. The description of the role when I went to audition for H20 was, 'overweight Greek kid,' and my skinny, pale, blonde self got the role. At the time we didn't even think it was worth auditioning for as I was nothing like the character description but clearly, the role was meant for me! There were so many other coincidences that happened along the way, one being that my on screen sister's character name was already named 'Cleo.' (Remember coincidences aren't accidents, they're signs from the Universe.) 

After finishing H20, I worked so hard to land another role. I spent thousands on head shots, flying to Sydney and LA for auditions, visas, courses etc. It has now been eight years of working my bum off to be a successful actor since finishing H20.

In 2015, I decided to start this Blog. The idea came out of nowhere, I got started straight away and everything was coming to me really easily. I couldn't believe I was enjoying something just as much as acting. All of a sudden, acting wasn't my ONLY passion. After writing blogs, I began writing my first film. I finished that film a while after, and am currently working on two other screen writing projects! I also have been given the opportunity to speak at events and I'm now loving using Pass Around the Smile as a verbally interactive project as well as a blog. So let me get this straight.... now not only do I love acting, I love blogging, screen writing and public speaking! 

This doesn't mean acting isn't the right path for me. It means at that time, it wasn't right. The Universe pushed me to realise I had other talents and interests. To be honest, looking back I ignored the Universe for SO long because I was scared and I thought that acting was my only passion. 

 
Positive, inspiring, law of attraction, motivating and self love based quotes. 
 

I want other people to realise that there is so much more out there for you. Whoever you are, wherever you are, look for the path that makes you feel good, nervous, excited, challenged and amazing! It doesn't have to be just one thing! It can be, but it doesn't have to be. If you end up having 9 career changes, then awesome! You've experienced so much! Each one of these experiences may have been a part of the Universe's plan to get you to where you're supposed to be.

You know you're on the right path when it feels right, coincidence's happen ALL THE TIME and everything flows. It's important to trust the Universe's guidance, take risks, try new things and BELIEVE in yourself. This life is yours to live, make it a crazy exciting one! 

"Life paths are just like foot paths, they both lead you to several different destinations on the journey!" - Pass Around the Smile.

(P.S) a book that helped me so much on the journey to discovering my right path, was the Manifestation Miracle. You can buy it online and download it. It really is amazing! If you like The Secret, you will LOVE this!) 

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Wearing: Kivari, again!

Photography: Natalie Imgraben - Instagram: @natalieimgraben

Cleo xx