Releasing Anger and Healing Situations

I'm really excited about this blog because I'm sure this is something that everyone can relate to. Anger can easily be held onto for no reason and the damage it does to you, your energy and your whole life is pretty crazy! You might be holding onto anger because a certain situation was unfair and the other person was completely in the wrong or maybe you're angry at yourself for something you did or you said? Either way, time to let it go my friend. 

Wanting to let go of something is great, but actually letting go of something is really challenging. How many times has a situation occurred and weeks later you're thinking of different things you should have said or how you could have avoided the situation?  You go over and over it in your mind making up all kinds of scenarios which might give you relief for a minute, then you snap back to reality and realise that nothing has changed. 

Having anger boil up inside you is such an awful feeling. It's hard to concentrate on anything else, it's almost impossible to attract positive things and situations because of the vibe you're subconsciously giving off and you can actually make yourself ill. (Example: When you have something you need to say, your throat can get sore. When you're anxious about something, your chest can get tight and you can make yourself nauseous. When you're stressed about something, your sleep is interrupted and you end up run down and sick.) 

So let's ask ourselves.... what's the point?! What is done is done and it can't be changed. You can be angry and waste your time, energy and possibly make the situation worse, or you can follow these steps which helped me move forward positively. 

When I was working a casual job just out of high school, I got caught up in a yucky situation with a girl I hardly knew. I remember going over and over the situation in my head, stressing myself to tears, worrying what people would think of me and overall I was terrified of seeing her again. (Mostly because of all the stuff I was making up in my mind! Why do we always jump to conclusions and focus on the ABSOLUTE WORST that could happen?) 

Here's what I did to release my built up anger and heal the situation. 

1. Compromise with Yourself. 

What this girl did was wrong and a lie, however I had to get real with myself and think, what did I do wrong? This was hard, because of course our natural instinct is to protect ourselves. 

I thought back to when I met her, working together for a short time and all of our interactions. I was able to see that maybe I was being a little immature and leaving her out. We had a very close knit group in our workplace, and having a younger person come in and take charge threatened me. I finally broke through what I did wrong and what drove her to the brink of this situation. As ashamed as I was after these realisations, I actually felt relieved. 

I was playing victim for so long. I felt sorry for myself and had no idea why someone would do something so nasty to an innocent person! Playing victim is easy, you get attention, maybe some sympathy which you naturally crave while you're angry and upset, and you get to completely ignore it all, calling it an unfair situation and leaving it at that. (Although we all know that saying you will ignore it is a lot harder than actually ignoring it. You have to show up, and deal with the situation, as hard as it may be.) 

Always look deeper into YOU. You may not deserve bad situations, but did you do something that helped lead to it? Even the tiniest thing? It's important to admit this to yourself. It's also very selfless to do so. Even if you know the other person was completely in the wrong, admitting you're partly at fault releases anger because it all starts to make a little more sense.

2. See through Love

This step was a huge life lesson for me and something that I use every single day now. Seeing every person, situation and thing through love, changes everything. You don't know what anyone is going through, and your only duty is to respect that and be kind to everyone.

This situation was still affecting me after it happened, I don't deal well with negative situations, especially confrontation. My Mum told me that I needed to send her love. EW! Why would I send  love to someone who had been so cruel?! Mum explained to me that she obviously isn't having a great time either, and to do the things she did, she mustn't be very happy. This hit me like a tonne of bricks. 

One night before I went to sleep, I decided to send her love. You can do this in any way that feels right for you. I imagined standing opposite her and sending her a huge amount of beautiful white light. 

3. Release it 

It's all well and good to do step 1 and 2 but still obsess and freak out over the situation. You have to release it. Be proud that you have done all you can to rectify the situation. (Rectifying the situation doesn't mean confronting the person and sorting it out with them. It can, especially if it's a family member or close friend, but in my situation, seeing each other and talking about it would have only made things worse.)

So I thought that's it! And I released it. I thanked the Universe for healing the situation and I was proud of myself for showing up and admitting that as unfair as the situation was, maybe I was in the wrong too. A couple of weeks later, guess who I ran into? We didn't speak, but it was fine. It's like The Universe was showing me that it was over and that we had both moved on. I felt SO relieved and so clear. 

Respect Yourself

Respect yourself enough to give yourself this type of relief. YOU are the only person in your life who has the power to help yourself. You can't rely on other people or other sources to fix situations or to make you feel better or more inspired and positive. YOU have to do it yourself. Showing up to situations can be very confronting and scary, but what is scarier, is holding onto the negative thoughts and anger about a certain someone or situation for your whole life. That is the most unhealthy situation you can get yourself in.  

I really hope this blog helped you, please hit the LOVE heart button below if it did. If you have any topics you would like me to write about, please message me via the contact page! 

Cleo xx

 
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Thoughts Become Things

Did you know our brains can't distinguish the difference between imagination and reality? This means, that you can trick your mind into creating whatever you want. It sounds too good to be true, but I and hundreds of the best scientists around the world (like how I just casually put myself in the bracket of one of the best scientists in the world), can tell you that it IS true. The things you think about, you bring about. 

 
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ALRIGHT, HOW DO I START?

Believe. 

A lot of us use the Law of Attraction without realising, which means a lot of us already trick our minds and bring what we want into reality without knowing. For example, you might have thought in the past 'It would be so nice if someone took me out to dinner.' You forget about it and then that night or a couple of nights later, someone takes you out to dinner. You think, what a coincidence?! Or maybe you're thinking about an old friend, forget about it and then they message you. YOU brought all of these 'coincidences' into your life. 

Now, this works hand in hand with the Law of Attraction, which says to ASK, BELIEVE and RECEIVE. Tricking your mind comes under the BELIEVE part. For example; say you want your boss to love the presentation you've been working on. ASK the Universe something like, 'Universe, I ask that you help and guide me so that I can complete this presentation in a way that will impress my boss beyond words.'

Next, you want to believe... now is the time to really imagine, pretend you're a child playing with your toys and creating this surreal world around you. Imagine your Boss' voice, telling you what you want to hear, feel the feeling of receiving that news. Imagine yourself celebrating with a bottle of champagne afterwards. Really see it, feel it and believe it. 

Receiving is actually one of the trickiest parts of the Law of Attraction, but this blog isn't about that. If you're interested in a more in depth description of the blocks that surround receiving, check this blog out. 

This blog is about your thoughts! So... 

 
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You've Started... Now What?!

Take control of your thoughts. 

I've said this a number of times, but in case you're a new reader I'll say it again. We have 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day, so there is no way you can control all of your thoughts. Not even Oprah could do that. Actually, Oprah might be able to do that. Oprah could probably do that, she is amazing. But seriously, don't feel guilty about the negative thoughts you have. It's natural. It's annoying and puts a damper on your day, but sometimes we just can't help it. 

What you can do is this. Choose which thoughts to give your attention too. Thought 1: Your friend Jack is really annoying you. Thought 2: Jack really helped you when you were going through a hard time. It's pretty obvious which thought you should give your focus too right? When someone or something is annoying you or creating negative thoughts in your mind, turn it around. Don't give it a second. Always focus on the good. No matter how bad your mood and thoughts are that day, you can always turn a negative thought into a positive one.

Once you change that initial negative thought it will build. Let's go back to Jack helping you in the past. You then might think how good he made you feel at that time, because of how good you felt, you were able to come out of that rut, because Jack helped you out of that rut, you then landed a new job. One good thought stems to another good thought and once you keep building on that, the energy inside of you becomes positive and magnetic. You're now what they call 'in alignment.'

 
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Being in Alignment

What does that mean?!

You will know when you're in alignment. You will feel INCREDIBLE, good things will happen to and around you, coincidences will occur all the time and life will feel exciting and simple, like a wave that keeps rolling in the right direction. 

You have the power to get yourself in alignment no matter the day, time or mood you're in. Your thoughts are powerful, all you need to do is think about things that make you genuinely happy and build on that. Once you build and build, you will eventually get yourself to a state of alignment. 

Once you're in this state, you can manifest ANYTHING you want. There is no higher vibrational state than being in alignment, while remaining grateful and visualising exactly what you want. 

NOTE: You have to believe these thoughts. It does take effort. Thinking 'I am a happy person, everyone wants to be around me' while crying and hating on yourself won't work. Changing your thought pattern and believing it can be the most important thing in your life. 

 
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How Changing Your Thoughts Will Change Your Life

& examples...

Changing your thoughts to happy and positive thoughts will make you shine on the inside and the outside. When you're truly happy, you will naturally attract good people, good things and good circumstances. By attracting good things, only better things will follow. 

Once you're in alignment and thinking positively, guess what you're doing? Tricking your mind into changing your thoughts to things! It's actually pretty simple, the key is just to BE happy. To BE happy, you have to focus on the POSITIVE. Focusing on the positive and creating exciting visualisations of what you want in your mind, WILL become your reality. 

You have the power and the sooner you start, the sooner you'll get what you want. 

I wanted to share a personal experience I had using the principle of 'your thoughts become things'! I love hearing other people's Law of Attraction success stories, it inspires me so much as you're hearing it first hand! (Whenever you're feeling a bit negative or searching for some inspiration type into Youtube, LOA Success Stories.) 

SO, the other day something really amazing happened! I was doing a guided meditation on Youtube, and I was visualising the perfect role I want to land in a film. I was imagining myself in the role, on set, at the premiere, etc. I was getting so excited, and really letting my mind wander!

All of a sudden, the letter A popped into my head. I don't know why, but I knew that the role I was about to receive would start with A. Anyway, I forgot about it, went to sleep and the next day went for a walk. While I was walking the name Anna popped into my head. Again, I don't know why it did, but I knew it had something to do with a role. I thought it was weird because that's my Mum's name.

Again, I forgot about it and later that day I got an email from my agent with an audition attached. The character's name that I was going for was Ana! I didn't realise until five minutes later... and then I thought, oh my gosh, I went back to the script to check, and realised that the biggest coincidence had just happened. Yes it was one N instead of two, but who cares! The role also wasn't perfect for me, but any chance to audition is an amazing opportunity. This could open up so many other possibilities and it shows that I am in complete alignment with my thoughts, and I am beginning to attract things! 

Coincidences aren't just coincidences, they're signs from the Universe to let you know you're on the right path. I LOVE COINCIDENCES!  Make sure you listen and watch out for them. They are so powerful as they're created from your thoughts and your mind

Don't underestimate the power of your mind! 

Cleo xx

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