Reject Rejection

 
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REJECTION. A word that brings on fear for almost anyone.

How you perceive rejection is your choice. You can choose to feel sorry for yourself, fear that you’ve wasted your time, fall into a pattern of self doubt and second guess everything you did, or you can be thankful for what you learnt along the way, remind yourself that it isn’t personal, and believe that this rejection is just making room so that something better can make its way into your life.

I’m here to tell you, that you’re way too good to be rejected. By anyone, or anything. I’m here to tell you, that you have every right to reject rejection! However, keep in mind that sometimes we’re meant to be rejected. Sometimes the rejection is fair or right. By ‘rejecting rejection,’ I mean two different things depending on the situation; 1. To stand up for yourself if you know in your heart it’s right and worth fighting for, and 2. To accept that whatever has rejected you has happened for a reason, and move forward with optimism, knowing that the Universe has your back.

Just like dwelling on negativity has its risks, dwelling on rejection does too, because essentially, rejection is negative, and we all know that when we focus on the negative we attract the negative. Choose to stand up for yourself and fight for what you strongly believe is right, or choose to let it go.

So, how do we know if we should fight or let it go? Well, you’re the only person who can decide that, and I believe you can get the answer by listening to your heart. It’s one of the most powerful human skills we can learn and the most reliable source when seeking answers. How many times have you thought ‘ahhh, I should have listened to my gut?!’ Often, our initial gut feeling is correct, and we have to learn to listen intuitively to ourselves, in order to live a free flowing life. We also have to take who or what is rejecting us into account. If it’s a person, often we need to respect their decision. In saying that, some relationships, friendships or work relationships are worth fighting for. If you lose out on getting a job, a promotion or don’t win a competition or an award, sometimes it’s best to let it go. However in some circumstances, if you really feel it’s right, fight for it!

As Gabby Bernstein says, ‘obstacles are detours in the right direction.’ Sometimes rejection, no matter how bad, wrong or unfair it seems at the time, will end up for the better. Majority of the time it does. It might be so you can learn valuable life lessons like, patience, gratitude, forgiveness or true love. It might be so that you can meet the right person, or get the right job, it might allow you to spend more time on an assignment or project so it leads to a better result which will then lead to something else! The Universe always has a better plan and can see possibilities that we can’t yet see.

There are so many reasons as to why you may be rejected in your lifetime. Choose to look at it through the eyes of optimism rather than through the eyes of fear and disappointment.

Self-love and the Law of Attraction also come into play with rejection. Often we can attract rejection through the fear of being rejected. It is completely natural, but to eliminate rejection from your life, you must change your thought process. Start by practicing self-love. Make time to meditate, journal and say your thank you’s for who you are and what you love about yourself. Do whatever it takes to become more confident in your own skin, skills and personality. If you feel like you need to practice more self-love, check out my blog on it here.

The Law of Attraction is an incredible way to focus on the positives, on what you do want, instead of what you don’t want. With the Law of Attraction, you can eliminate all thoughts of ‘fearing rejection’ by replacing them with thoughts of landing the job, winning the award, falling in love etc. Next time you find yourself in a negative thought pattern, worrying about getting rejected and not being good enough, GET RID OF IT! Focus on how competent, amazing, incredible and deserving you are of great relationships, opportunities and circumstances. More on the Law of Attraction in another blog here.

Rejection provides an opportunity to grow, learn and become a more understanding, patient and hardworking human. If you look hard enough, there are always positives in a negative! - pass around the smile

Cleo xx

 
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Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

If you follow me on Instagram, you would have seen a very enthusiastic book review on my story raving about Richard Carlson’s book, ‘Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…. and it’s all small stuff.’ I love it so much, that I’ve decided to dedicate a whole blog to it, choosing ten of my favourite lessons and putting them into my own words. Let’s start with the most obvious …

  1. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

    I believe making an effort to not sweat the small stuff, can enhance your life in SO many ways. It helps you become more present, it allows you more time to focus your energy on the things in life that actually matter, you become a more pleasant person to be around and you don’t run the risk of making the small things any worse. How often do we blow small inconveniences out of proportion? Richard talks about how it may start with something as simple as a stranger cutting in front of you in traffic. Rather than let it go and go on with our day, we convince ourselves that we are justified in our anger. Do you ever play out an imaginary confrontation in your mind? I sure have! What’s scary, is that our mind can’t tell the difference between imagination and real life, so while you’re playing out this confrontation, your mind believes you’re fighting with someone, and your energy puts itself on a negative frequency, opening you up to attract negative circumstances, people and things. When someone skips the line, your phone wasn’t plugged in properly, you bang your knee or loose $10, choose to see it differently. Allow it to just, go. When someone else is the reason for your anger, choose to see them and the situation with compassion. It’s not worth wasting your energy on it.

  2. Remind Yourself that When You Die, Your “In Basket” Won’t Be Empty.

    I loved this one. Basically what Richard is saying, is why do we all stay up late, get up early, avoid having fun, budget like crazy and keep our loved ones waiting in the hope to somehow get everything done. I’m guilty of obsessing over my to-do list and striving to get absolutely everything on it done. While sometimes I will tick off everything and get a temporary feeling of relief and fulfilment, the ‘in basket’ will soon be full again. It’s natural to convince ourselves that once our to-do list is complete we will feel relaxed and happy, but there’s always going to be something else. I think having a to-do list is great! I also think moving forward, ticking boxes and being productive is great. But sometimes, obsessing over getting things done leaves us feeling stressed, it takes us away from people or occasions that matter and we miss out on opportunities because we’re not present, going with the flow or flexible. So I think we should all ask ourselves… what is most important? It might be different for you, but mine is family, friends, health and happiness. I’m going to do my best to put my to-do list after those four aspects!

3. Don’t Interrupt Others or Finish Their Sentences

I think this is a really important one, as it’s something a lot of us do, but may not notice. This is actually a really destructive habit, because when you interrupt others, the conversation can go from a relaxed, respectful and interesting discussion, to a fast-paced, exhausting and competitive discussion. Another lesson in Richard’s book is letting others be right, and I think that comes into play here as well. When someone else is speaking, let them speak, let them take the glory, let them have the attention. The respect you will gain from that person, is far better than the few seconds of fulfilment you might get while you interrupt and give your point. When you hurry someone along, finish their sentence or interrupt, you have to then keep track of your own thoughts and their thoughts as well, how exhausting! Conversations are supposed to be enjoyed, so do yourself a favour and catch yourself out next time you feel the need to interrupt. You’ll notice all of your interactions improve as a result of this simple act. The people you communicate with will relax around you, and they will feel heard and listened to. You will gain a huge amount of respect in your relationships because of this and you will also enjoy these interactions, rather than rushing through them.

4. Do Something Nice for Someone Else - and Don’t Tell Anyone About It.

Oh Richard! He just makes so much sense! Many of us do nice things for others, but we are almost certain to mention our acts of kindness to someone else, secretly seeking their approval. Acts of kindness are incredible and I encourage you to be kind, think of others and act on those thoughts, but as Richard says, there is something magical about doing something for someone and not mentioning it to anyone, ever. What is amazing is to give, and to not expect anything in return. When we tell others about our acts of kindness, that is essentially what we are doing. We’re expecting something in return, some acknowledgement, some attention or maybe some kindness back for ourselves. When you give, you feel amazing and get warm and fuzzy feelings immediately. These feelings are your reward! Next time you do something nice for someone, don’t tell anyone and revel in these feelings. Take advantage of the good feelings and energy that surrounds you, and use that to attract more incredible and positive things into your life!

5. Set Aside Quiet Time, Every Day

Richard says, there is something rejuvenating and peaceful about being alone and having some quiet time to reflect, work, or simply enjoy the quiet and I completely agree! Our lives are filled with so much noise, conversation, TV’s, confusion, phone calls, social media notifications and confrontations. Spending time alone in a quiet space, with your phone away can mean the difference in a productive, calm and flowing day versus a stressful, fast paced and confusing day. When people say things like ‘I’ve been so busy,’ or ‘it’s been a stressful week,’ we are taught to admire or even validate their behaviour. What about the people who have the same amount of things going on in their lives but manage their time, live a calm life and don’t constantly talk about how stressed and busy they are? I think that should be admired. Setting aside quiet time each day may seem like a big task. But it can be as little as a 3 minute meditation, 10 minutes alone in your room, a 20 minute yoga session, or a few pages of journaling. I, like Richard, notice a huge difference in my day when I don’t set aside quiet time for myself. When I do take a few minutes to just be, my days flow, everything is manageable, and my mind is clear.

6. Seek First to Understand

In Richard’s book, he explains that “seek first to understand’ implies that you become more interested in understanding others and less in having other people understand you. It means ‘mastering the idea that if you want quality, fulfilling communication that is nourishing to you and others, understanding others must come first’. We should be genuinely interested in those who are around us, so this shouldn’t take a huge amount of effort. We are all so different, so it’s actually quite interesting to understand someone else’s point of view, whether you believe it to be wrong or right. When you make an effort to understand others, you become a more compassionate, loving and of course, understanding human. This will have you feeling better about yourself and will improve your relationships, as people will grow a huge amount of respect for you, because of the respect that you’re showing them. It’s normal to perform this in reverse, where we feel we need to be understood to prove a point or to explain ourselves, but this won’t do you, the other person or the conversation you’re having any positive favours. It will become a competitive and up-tight atmosphere, where two people are oblivious to each others needs. When I started to understand the why’s behind people’s doing, not only did I experience the positive feelings I mentioned above, but I started to understand the reason behind why I say and do certain things! This allowed me to slow down, be kinder to myself and work on aspects I realised I need to.

7. Choose Your Battles Wisely.

Richard says, ‘if you choose your battles wisely, you’ll be far more effective in winning those that are truly important.’ There are definitely times where arguing, proving a point or fighting for something you believe in are valid. However, many people do this when it’s really not needed. Starting a fight, or proving your point over something small, can escalate very quickly, and all of a sudden you might be thinking, ‘if I didn’t get angry at my partner for leaving the dishes out, this huge confrontation we’re now having could have been avoided’. Don’t risk changing small, inconvenient experiences into life changing, negative experiences. If you live a life where you allow yourself to get frustrated over every little thing, you will loose track of what is actually relevant, resulting in miss-communication and poorly made decisions. There are always going to be people who see things differently, people who disagree with you and things that don’t work out. ‘If you fight against this principle of life, you’ll spend most of your life fighting battles.’ Life is way too short for that! If you want to live a relatively stress free life, make a conscious decision to choose your battles wisely. You will live a more peaceful life yourself, and people will feel relaxed around you, knowing that you’re carefree and willing to let things go.

8. Practice Humility

‘Humility and peace go hand in hand. The less compelled you are to try to prove yourself to others, the easier it is to feel peaceful inside.’ Proving yourself doesn’t have many benefits at all, but unfortunately it seems to be a natural reflex, where we think we have to prove we are good enough, competent enough, kind enough or experienced enough. Proving yourself takes a lot of energy, and it often comes across as bragging. Why do we feel we need to convince others of our worth as a human being? We don’t. You never should feel as though you need to prove yourself. Of course when you’re in a job interview, at a networking event or on a date, it’s natural to want to impress the person, letting them know of your accomplishments, but continually pointing out your achievements and seeking approval from others isn’t going to do you any favours. It’s funny, because the less you care about seeking approval, the more approval you seem to get. ‘Most people love a person who doesn’t need to brag, a person who shares from his or her heart and not from their ego.’ When something amazing happens in your life, of course you want to tell people, and do! Just make sure you’re doing this for the right reasons, not to prove yourself, not to brag or not to make others jealous, because bragging actually dilutes the positive feelings you receive from the accomplishment in the first place.

9. Think of What You Have Instead of What You Want

Richard has been a stress consultant for over a dozen years, and he says that the most pervasive and destructive mental tendency is focusing on what we want instead of what we have. ‘It doesn’t seem to make any difference how much we have; we just keep expanding our lists of desires, which guarantees we will remain dissatisfied. I have found that myself and others around me have thoughts like, ‘I’ll be happy when my bank account reaches X amount’, ‘I’ll be relaxed when we go on our holiday’, ‘I’ll be confident when I reach X kilograms’ or ‘I’ll feel fulfilled once I finish this degree.’ I want to encourage my readers to enjoy the process because whether you’re studying, loosing weight or saving, when you reach this certain goal you won’t be finished. There will always be something else. Be proud of yourself along the way for milestones you hit! Celebrate small steps to make the process worth it! ‘Happiness can’t be found when yearning for new desires,’ but there is a way to be happy! And that is gratitude for what you have now. When you focus on what you have, instead of what you want, you’re automatically using gratitude to attract your desires. Gratitude is the highest form of vibrational energy - use this to your advantage. Feeling satisfied is an incredible feeling, and no matter where you’re at in your life, you have the option to feel completely satisfied by changing your mindset. Appreciate what you have now, because there’s nothing worse than looking back and thinking you should have enjoyed a time that you didn’t.

10. Think of Your Problems as Potential Teachers

Gabby Bernstein says ‘obstacles are detours in the right direction,’ and I cannot agree with this more. Every problem we face teaches us something, whether it’s patience, confidence, it could bring us closer to our purpose or help us grow. Only you hold the power to choose how to perceive your problems. You can choose to fear them, see them as a nuisance and resent them, resisting the problem all together, or you can choose to embrace them, trusting that the Universe has your back and that the problems will resolve effortlessly and leave you with new lessons and opportunities. You’ll find that maintaining this mindset, lifts a weight off your shoulders. Accept that life brings problems, but change that negative to a positive, and see them as teachers. Almost treat them like an assignment to overcome, it’s exciting to see what’s on the other side, because there’s always a reward in self growth.

If you liked this blog, please hit the love heart! There are 100 lessons in this book, so I can do a follow up blog with another 10 if you liked it!

Thanks for reading, Cleo xx

Living a Guilt Free Life

Guilt is something that nobody wants to feel. It can bring on feelings of anxiety, stress and anger, along with negative thoughts and actions. Basically all the feelings which won’t allow us to live a positive and free flowing life.

If you lie, judge, purposely hurt others, cheat or put others down, you have a reason to feel guilty. If everything you are doing is through a kind, loving and giving heart, then you don’t have a reason to feel guilty. So why not aim to never feel guilty? I’m not saying do bad things and just choose not to feel guilty about it, I’m saying, choose to do and be good and you won’t have to feel guilty! It’s a win, win.

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

A lot of us feel guilt when we have no reason to, and that’s what I can’t wait to write about in today’s blog! My New Year Resolution for 2019 is ‘learn to say no without feeling guilty about it!’ It’s super hard to keep up, but I am loving the challenge and I think it’s something a lot of people need to work on.

How many times have you said or done something you regret and you feel a little bit of guilt kick in? Next minute that little bit of guilt has got you feeling anxious, and then that anxiety has you coming up with the worst possible scenarios in your mind and all of a sudden you’re in a completely negative mindset and feeling overwhelmed? Or maybe it’s about something you didn’t do? You didn’t go to that exercise class, didn’t go to that work meeting, or didn’t go to that party and that yucky feeling of guilt starts to kick in and it’s a downward spiral from there.

If you can relate to feeling guilty for some of the reasons above, and you were never doing or not doing these things to intentionally hurt others, then I am here to say, you have no reason to feel guilty!

I have broken down some aspects of life where I find most people (including myself) will feel guilty for no good reason. I hope this can inspire you to kick those guilty feelings to the curb and live a life where you feel comfortable doing, saying or not doing and not saying WHATEVER YOU WANT!

DIET

This is a big one. How often do you feel guilty about what you eat? Or maybe how much alcohol you consume? I believe eating a healthy diet is so important for our health and overall wellbeing and so is setting goals and having boundaries. However, I hear and see so many people beating themselves up when they mess up their diet, or have a second helping, drink too much alcohol etc.

This is your life and you need to enjoy every minute of it. You ate or drank whatever it was, because at the time, you wanted it! So be it. It’s done, end of story. Why waste time worrying and getting upset over something that can’t be changed?

I’m not one for diets because I don’t like feeling restricted. I also fear that if I have restrictions I will disappoint myself if I fail. So I chose another way of dieting. Instead of having ‘don’t eats’ I have ‘do eats.’ I turned a negative diet into a positive diet. I hope this can inspire you, but I totally understand this isn’t for everyone, some people love a restrictive diet, and I say go you!

MY DIET:

- 2 Litres of water a day

-Vegetables or salad in my lunch and dinner

-Two pieces of fruit

And that’s it! By the time I achieve all of this, there actually isn’t too much time left to eat naughty foods! While I have some ‘musts,’ in my diet, I’m not left feeling restricted, instead, I’m motivated to tick it all off. And if I get to my goal of eating and drinking all of this goodness, I will allow myself guilt free to have a treat or a little too much pasta, hehe.

EXERCISE

I believe moving your body is super important, but I also believe listening to your body is super important! With social media, it’s so easy to compare your fitness journey to incredibly fit people who are constantly posting their workouts. But it’s important that you, do you!

Like my diet, I also have my goals with exercise, however they’re flexible goals. I used to feel really guilty if I skipped a workout, but now when I’m tired, sore or just not feeling it, I will either skip it and not give the guilty feelings any attention or go for a walk instead. I definitely recommend coming up with an easier alternative, because at least then, you’re still moving your body!

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

WORK

Whether you work for yourself or for someone else, it’s easy to let those guilty feelings creep in. Maybe your presentation wasn’t up to scratch? Maybe you called in sick for the third day in a row? Maybe you procrastinated all day? Maybe you had to get stern with co-workers or your staff members?

It comes down to the same message. If you’re doing these things with a good heart and for good reason, you shouldn’t have to feel guilty. If you had a day where you procrastinated or your work wasn’t up to scratch, it’s okay! Sometimes the most productive way forward is to stop and rest! We also wouldn’t have ‘productive days’ if we didn’t have ‘un-productive days.’ Everyone goes through stages where they’re not motivated, happy or proactive at work, so when you’re going through these periods, don’t make it worse by allowing yourself to feel guilty, ride the wave and let yourself feel how you feel.

SOCIAL OCCASIONS

This is a huge one for me, and it’s the biggest reason for my New Year resolution of ‘saying no without feeling guilty.’ It is absolutely, 100%, a-okay to not want to go out to a social occasion every now and then. It’s also completely acceptable to just say, ‘no thanks, I don’t feel like it, or ‘I just really need some chill time at home.’

For those of you that have FOMO (fear of missing out), in the scheme of things, missing one social occasion is nothing. Do yourself a favour and rest. If you force yourself to go to something when you don’t want to, you’re likely going to turn up, subconsciously angry about being there. Your negative vibes will affect the other people, and you will probably end up saying or doing things that you will regret. On that note ….

WORDS & ACTIONS

What about the times where we did say something that was maybe inappropriate, rude, nasty or judgmental? Sometimes it is very fair to feel guilty about those things, and I definitely encourage you to apologise or at least recognise what you didn’t like about your behaviour.

But sometimes words or actions can come across negatively or wrong, when you’re trying to do something good. For example: sticking up for someone, or backing yourself up. Or maybe you said or did something that was a bit out there, or awkward? You must remember that you are you. Some of us are out there, awkward, sensitive or protective and that is okay! It’s so important to understand why you, yourself do or say certain things, and why our family and friends do or say certain things. If it is coming from a loving place, then you do not need to feel guilty. Even if it was embarrassing, awkward or negative, did you do anything wrong?! Or were you just being you? Sometimes our innocent words or actions can put other people out, or make them feel upset, embarrassed or angry and that’s not your problem, it’s theirs.

SPENDING

Money comes and goes. This is your life, and you get to choose how to spend your money that you work hard earning. Of course some people are better off than others, some people have more responsibility than others, but it’s important to enjoy this life and use your money to make you and your loved ones feel good.

A tip I have with spending and not feeling guilty, is using mantras. For those of you who read my blogs, you will know how much of an impact a positive mantra can have on your life! 'Money is constantly flowing to me,’ ‘I have more money than I could ever need,’ ‘I can afford this.’ Using these mantras is great, but believing these mantras is incredible, and not only will you not feel guilty about spending money every now and then, you will also attract more money into your life!

I hope you enjoyed today’s blog! Please hit the love heart button if you did and feel free to get in contact if you have any questions! Thanks so much for reading and I hope you have a guilt free day!

Cleo xx

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

Lucy Cruickshank Photography

Becoming YOU - Being Fearlessly Yourself

Becoming who we really are takes time, courage and mistakes.

You might be thinking, I know who I am - which is amazing, or you might be thinking I have no idea who I am, or what I need to do to make myself happy. Even if you know who you are, keep reading … because to be FEARLESSLY you is a whole other ball game.

Becoming You

A lot of the time, we do things that aren’t necessarily aligned with who we are. You might be peer pressured into doing something you don’t want to do, you might gossip or judge someone because you’re jealous, you might post a certain photo on social media because you feel like that’s what society wants.

All of these unfortunately are natural reactions and you have nothing to feel guilty about, but you can pinpoint the times where you’re not yourself and work on changing them. Ask yourself these questions … Who am I? What do I want? Like, REALLY want? What do I care about? Who do I care about?

As cliche as it sounds, listening to your heart is the most powerful thing you can do. BUT listening to your heart is actually quite hard, because we confuse what our heart actually desires, with the cheaper option, or the safer option, the more comfortable option etc. To really listen to your heart, I recommend meditating. Even if it’s for 2 minutes. Quiet your mind and really ask yourself, who am I and what do I want?

You have been given this life. Don’t waste a minute of it trying to be someone else, doing things to impress people or worrying about what people think. Which leads us into …

Being Fearlessly Yourself

After doing all you can to become YOU, you need to become fearlessly YOU.

Today I was sitting at the beach and I was so intrigued watching all the young kids play. They are SO themselves and I think we should take note! They don’t know judgement, so they don’t care what people think, they aren’t self conscious, so they dance, yell, sing and play like no one is watching, they believe nothing is impossible, so they use their imaginations and play for hours and they fearlessly speak their mind. Why do we loose this? Because we care too much what others think? Because we don’t know who we are anymore? Because we think we need to be serious and sensible? Because we’re trying to impress people? We all need to acknowledge our inner child and let it shine through!

“What other people think of you, is none of your business.”

When you’re in alignment with who you are, everything will flow. You will be clear in what you believe, what you think is right or wrong, who and what you care about and you will effortlessly give your energy and time to those things.

When you’re being YOU, like… really you, make no apologies! When we’re feeling self conscious, unsure, pressured or just generally not ourselves, we make mistakes and regret things, but when you’re YOU, everything you do or say is coming from who you are as a person.

Sometimes when you do get the courage to be truly yourself, you are met with judgement because other people are threatened by you loving and accepting yourself. Probably because they haven’t learnt to do it for themselves. Becoming you and owning it is the most important thing you could do in this life of yours. Because being fearlessly yourself, is also showing an immense amount of gratitude for your life and who you are. This immediately puts you on a high vibrating frequency. When you’re vibrating on a high level, you’re attracting people, circumstances and things which are vibrating on that same level. So basically you’re attracting positive, exciting and amazing things!

Becoming you might mean changing quite a few things in your life, but like I said before, do not apologise for this. If you’re met with judgement on decisions you truly want to make, then that isn’t your problem - it’s theirs.

A fun little story to end with. My Mum was walking along the beach, and suddenly she saw this lady who would have been in her 40s go from a casual beach walk, into a cartwheel. Mum loved it and said to the lady, ‘I saw your cartwheel.’ And the lady said back ‘yeah, I just felt like it!'' I think we all need to be more like that lady. Feel like doing something? Bloody do it!

Start now, so that later you can look back and know that in this life, you were fearlessly yourself. Only good things can come from being truly you.

I hope this blog can help you in some way! Please remember to subscribe on my ‘contact’ page if you want positivity sent straight to your inbox, and hit the little love heart if you enjoyed this blog!

Cleo xx

Photos by the wonderful Natalie Imgraben

 
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Limiting Beliefs & Facing Your Fears in 2019

As written in 'May Cause Miracles' FEAR = False Events Appearing Real

The fears that live inside of us can stop us from living our dreams and loving others. Two very important factors in living an amazing life. I believe a goal that everyone should have is to recognise fears and work toward healing them.  

When you choose to perceive love over fear, life begins to flow.  Love and fear cannot exist together. So when you choose to see people and situations through the eyes of love, fear cannot appear.

Recognising your fears can be difficult, as you might think that some fears are just protective methods. But they're all fears and they're all causing limiting beliefs and stopping you in some way or another from living a happy, positive and easy flowing life. 

Change your perspective.

Fears show up in many ways, the most common way is through negative thoughts. Thinking things like ‘I look ugly,’ or ‘I won’t be able to save enough,’ or ‘I can’t do it,’ all come from a place of fear. To live a life through love, you must eliminate these fears. If you believe you can’t do something, you’re right. But if you believe you can do something, you’re right as well.

In 2019, I want to inspire people to get started. Get started on whatever it is that you want to do. Save for that trip, start those yoga classes, eat better food, start your own business, paint that picture. Don’t let fear take over. Imagine if you started what you wanted to 1 year ago? Imagine where you would be now! Well, if you start something now, imagine where you will be this time next year, going into 2020?

Shoot for the moon, because even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.

Everything you do and try in this life, is going to help you grow and learn. Even things that seem small, can end up transforming into something huge. There is no reason why we should sit on ideas instead of giving them a go. A study was done with terminally ill patients and the findings were really quite sad. The majority of the patients said they wish they had the courage to do what they wanted and not what others had expected of them. Can you imagine feeling like this at the end of your life?

The Law of Attraction says that you can attract ANYTHING into your life, if you completely believe. So study up on the Law of Attraction, I have plenty of blogs in my archive and get started now.

Face your fears and distinguish those limiting beliefs you hold by using positive mantras.

You are good enough, you’re smart enough and you’re ready.

Wishing you the most amazing, magical and positive year yet. Happy 2019.

Cleo xx

 
Picture - DreamyMoons by Annie. A beautiful collection of New Year Growth Books and Affirmation cards.

Picture - DreamyMoons by Annie. A beautiful collection of New Year Growth Books and Affirmation cards.

 

Releasing Anger and Healing Situations

I'm really excited about this blog because I'm sure this is something that everyone can relate to. Anger can easily be held onto for no reason and the damage it does to you, your energy and your whole life is pretty crazy! You might be holding onto anger because a certain situation was unfair and the other person was completely in the wrong or maybe you're angry at yourself for something you did or you said? Either way, time to let it go my friend. 

Wanting to let go of something is great, but actually letting go of something is really challenging. How many times has a situation occurred and weeks later you're thinking of different things you should have said or how you could have avoided the situation?  You go over and over it in your mind making up all kinds of scenarios which might give you relief for a minute, then you snap back to reality and realise that nothing has changed. 

Having anger boil up inside you is such an awful feeling. It's hard to concentrate on anything else, it's almost impossible to attract positive things and situations because of the vibe you're subconsciously giving off and you can actually make yourself ill. (Example: When you have something you need to say, your throat can get sore. When you're anxious about something, your chest can get tight and you can make yourself nauseous. When you're stressed about something, your sleep is interrupted and you end up run down and sick.) 

So let's ask ourselves.... what's the point?! What is done is done and it can't be changed. You can be angry and waste your time, energy and possibly make the situation worse, or you can follow these steps which helped me move forward positively. 

When I was working a casual job just out of high school, I got caught up in a yucky situation with a girl I hardly knew. I remember going over and over the situation in my head, stressing myself to tears, worrying what people would think of me and overall I was terrified of seeing her again. (Mostly because of all the stuff I was making up in my mind! Why do we always jump to conclusions and focus on the ABSOLUTE WORST that could happen?) 

Here's what I did to release my built up anger and heal the situation. 

1. Compromise with Yourself. 

What this girl did was wrong and a lie, however I had to get real with myself and think, what did I do wrong? This was hard, because of course our natural instinct is to protect ourselves. 

I thought back to when I met her, working together for a short time and all of our interactions. I was able to see that maybe I was being a little immature and leaving her out. We had a very close knit group in our workplace, and having a younger person come in and take charge threatened me. I finally broke through what I did wrong and what drove her to the brink of this situation. As ashamed as I was after these realisations, I actually felt relieved. 

I was playing victim for so long. I felt sorry for myself and had no idea why someone would do something so nasty to an innocent person! Playing victim is easy, you get attention, maybe some sympathy which you naturally crave while you're angry and upset, and you get to completely ignore it all, calling it an unfair situation and leaving it at that. (Although we all know that saying you will ignore it is a lot harder than actually ignoring it. You have to show up, and deal with the situation, as hard as it may be.) 

Always look deeper into YOU. You may not deserve bad situations, but did you do something that helped lead to it? Even the tiniest thing? It's important to admit this to yourself. It's also very selfless to do so. Even if you know the other person was completely in the wrong, admitting you're partly at fault releases anger because it all starts to make a little more sense.

2. See through Love

This step was a huge life lesson for me and something that I use every single day now. Seeing every person, situation and thing through love, changes everything. You don't know what anyone is going through, and your only duty is to respect that and be kind to everyone.

This situation was still affecting me after it happened, I don't deal well with negative situations, especially confrontation. My Mum told me that I needed to send her love. EW! Why would I send  love to someone who had been so cruel?! Mum explained to me that she obviously isn't having a great time either, and to do the things she did, she mustn't be very happy. This hit me like a tonne of bricks. 

One night before I went to sleep, I decided to send her love. You can do this in any way that feels right for you. I imagined standing opposite her and sending her a huge amount of beautiful white light. 

3. Release it 

It's all well and good to do step 1 and 2 but still obsess and freak out over the situation. You have to release it. Be proud that you have done all you can to rectify the situation. (Rectifying the situation doesn't mean confronting the person and sorting it out with them. It can, especially if it's a family member or close friend, but in my situation, seeing each other and talking about it would have only made things worse.)

So I thought that's it! And I released it. I thanked the Universe for healing the situation and I was proud of myself for showing up and admitting that as unfair as the situation was, maybe I was in the wrong too. A couple of weeks later, guess who I ran into? We didn't speak, but it was fine. It's like The Universe was showing me that it was over and that we had both moved on. I felt SO relieved and so clear. 

Respect Yourself

Respect yourself enough to give yourself this type of relief. YOU are the only person in your life who has the power to help yourself. You can't rely on other people or other sources to fix situations or to make you feel better or more inspired and positive. YOU have to do it yourself. Showing up to situations can be very confronting and scary, but what is scarier, is holding onto the negative thoughts and anger about a certain someone or situation for your whole life. That is the most unhealthy situation you can get yourself in.  

I really hope this blog helped you, please hit the LOVE heart button below if it did. If you have any topics you would like me to write about, please message me via the contact page! 

Cleo xx

 
Gabby Bernstein Quote
 

Missing Steps in the Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is a Universal law which allows us to manifest WHATEVER we want into our lives. The 3 steps are said to be ASK, BELIEVE, RECEIVE. 

However, after years of being obsessed with the Law of Attraction and the infinite possibilities that the Universe has available to us, I have figured out a few steps that are constantly missed or looked over. 

If you have given the Law of Attraction a go and have been disappointed with the result, then maybe you're missing a few of these crucial steps. I won't go into detail about the original steps, ask, believe and receive, but if you're new to the Law of Attraction and want to know more about these steps, read this blog here and then come back to this blog post! 

1. FOCUS

Before the 'ask' step, it is SO important to get focused on exactly what you want. The Universe likes specific and clear visualisations. You can ask for as many things as you want, the Universe doesn't work in quantity's and also doesn't care whether it's sending $20 or $20,000 your way. There is enough abundance, happiness and amazing things out there for everyone. However, separate your desires and ask for one specific thing at a time. After getting clear about exactly what you want, free your space and your mind before asking. It's more powerful to ask in a quiet, peaceful environment, where you're focused and in tune with the Universe and your own energy. 

2. ASK

3. BELIEVE

4. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

It's all well and good to imagine yourself in your new role at work, or in that new car, or with a new partner, but if you don't believe that you can be a great worker, partner etc. then that's not enough. You need to know wholeheartedly that you deserve whatever you're asking for. You need to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF completely. You're good enough. You're capable enough and you're ready! 

5. SURRENDER

This is a huge one, and the lady who taught me all about this, is the amazing Gabrielle Bernstein. Don't try and control your wish. For example: Say you want a promotion at work. You ask the Universe while meditating, you really believe you're good enough for the role, you see yourself in the role and create the feelings of excitement through your body, tricking your brain into thinking that these visualisations are real life.

Then you keep thinking about it, and how it might come about. Maybe Matt from accounts will go away on a holiday and you will step in and keep the role, maybe the sales will go through the roof and they will need two people in that role, and you obsess over how this wish of yours will come into reality. The Universe ALWAYS knows the quickest, and best option for you. Often, the Universe has an even BETTER plan for you. A mantra I use is: I accept this, or something better. Surrendering to the Universe can be really difficult, because when we want something it's natural to keep thinking and obsessing over that thing. However, we have to make a conscious effort to let go of our desire and TRUST that the Universe knows the best way. Trying to control your desire gets in the way of the Universe's plan. Don't underestimate it's power. 

6. RECEIVE 

7. GRATITUDE  

I am guilty of receiving and not being grateful. In one instance, I actually had my desire taken away from me! When I received this desire, I was excited but kept second guessing it. "Why did they choose me?" "The role will probably be cut from the show." "I won't believe it until I'm on set." Well, the Universe heard me loud and clear and took my desire straight off me!

Luckily I am getting better at tuning into a positive frequency quickly and attracting the things I want. Because of this, I was actually able to manifest this desire back, which was pretty crazy! But the point is, gratitude is one of the highest vibrations you can put out into the Universe, so to me, it NEEDS to be included in the Law of Attraction. It's also pretty simple. After receiving, THANK the Universe. Accept your desire you have just manifested with open, accepting and GRATEFUL arms, knowing that you deserve it. 

I hope you enjoyed this blog! Please hit the love heart button if it helped you, and feel free to get in contact via the contact page if you have a burning desire for me to write about a certain topic! 

Cleo xx

Staying Focused

What is focus to you? Focus to me is remaining in alignment, staying positive and sticking to my goals! When I am completely focused on those three elements of my life, everything else seems to fall into place. I have clarity, I feel good and exciting things happen! 

I think we can all agree that moving forward, whether it be in your career, relationship, booking a holiday or even things like getting your tax done, brings on good feelings. If you're like me, it will give you a sense of pride and motivates you even more to keep going and to keep creating your life just how you want it!

However, we are all human and staying focused on things you want 24/7 isn't easy. If you read my blog, you will know that focusing on what you want is THE most important thing you can do. Why? Because whether you believe it or not, the Law of Attraction is always working. It depends on what you're focusing on as to whether the Law of Attraction is working to your advantage or disadvantage. The book, The Universe Has Your Back says; 'Where your attention goes, energy flows.' If you focus on the bad, you get the bad and more bad, but if you focus on the good, you get the good and more good! 

Now, let's talk about getting focused and staying focused (most of the time.) I'm not going to exaggerate and say, 'If you really work on it you can be focused 100% of the time for the rest of your life and be a positivity focused superhuman.' Let's be realistic here and work on staying focused the majority of the time. 

Most times, we lapse out of focus when we're feeling generally negative or down, after a weekend of partying or from tiredness or self doubt. When we're in this state of mind, the last thing we can be bothered doing is making an effort to turn our lazy and negative state of mind around. But this is the most important part! It's so easy to mope around, eat badly, have a cry, watch reality TV and aimlessly scroll through social media. Or how many of you have said 'I'll start tomorrow'? It's in these times you need to decide how you want to feel and how important it is to get to that. Do you want to feel happy? Inspired? Creative? Abundant? Positive? Motivated? Proud? Well my friend, you can feel all of that!

First of all YOU need to figure out what you want to focus on. I mentioned what I wanted to focus on above. You might notice that I haven't written down things like; family, relationship, career. When I focus on staying in alignment, remaining positive etc. my focus is controlled and things like family, my relationship and career all benefit and fall into place, because I feel good inside and I have the time, energy and love to give to those things. 

What do you want/need to focus on? It's time to write it down! I can't stress this enough! I read so many books on positivity and self love, and they all mention how important it is putting pen to paper. It's making it official and putting it out there into the Universe. Take your time.

Now that you know what you need to focus on, here are 7 ways to STAY focused. 

Reminders

Constantly remind yourself with post-it notes on your mirror, fridge, laptop etc. Have you ever felt the need to do or accomplish something so strongly, for example, 'I need to eat healthy. From tomorrow I am going to eat so well, this is so important to me and I'm GOING to make it happen,' then all of a sudden the next day when you're hungry and craving bad foods it doesn't seem that important anymore? Posting reminders everywhere helps your mind remember that sense of importance you once had and will help you stay on track. 

A healthy morning and night time routine! 

Going on your phone and scrolling through social media or playing games isn't the best way to start or end your day. Instead, focus on being present. Being present, whether it be chatting with your family/room mate/partner, reading, or meditating means the difference in your day being an okay one, to a productive, positive and focused one!  

Don't push yourself.

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is take time out to watch some mindless TV, or go for a walk. At the time, you might think, no I need to keep focused and get this done, but by exhausting yourself, you're not going to produce good work and you're going to end up overwhelmed. Don't feel guilty about taking time out. 

Checklists. 

Lists bring a sense of accomplishment and also ensures you did everything you set out to do. For me, checking off my list of big and little jobs clears my head. 

Meditation.

Speaks for itself. If you're not a meditator, I highly recommend starting. I used to think meditating was a waste of time... until I tried it and literally have never felt so clear, calm and present in my life! (If you're a beginner, find some guided meditations on Youtube.) 

Prioritising Importance.

Write down what is most important to you and figure out which areas you need to dedicate the most time and attention to. 

Listening to your heart!

What do you think the most about? What do you desire? What gets you excited? What gets you motivated? THAT is your life purpose. There is a reason that the old saying 'listen to your heart' has been around so long. It's so simple and so important. Deep down we all know what we want, don't ignore those feelings and don't waste time. Act now! 

Cleo xx

All photos, as per usual by Natalie Imgraben! 

Self Love 101

Loving yourself completely, will change everything. 

It's time to be the best version of YOU, and to do that you have to absolutely, whole heartedly love and believe in yourself like crazy. It's not vain to do so, it's actually humble. Show thanks to the Universe, God, Buddha (whoever you believe in), that you're so thankful that they made you, YOU. 

We all have special qualities, features and characteristics which make us individual. It's natural to compare, judge and hate on ourselves for the things that make us feel ugly, self conscious or not good enough. What a lot of people don't realise, is hiding these things, or hating on these things, does not do us any favours. In this blog, I am going to help you with a few techniques and examples to transform your views and ideas of yourself.

"Demonstrate love by giving it, unconditionally, to yourself. And as you do, you will attract others into your life who will love you without conditions." - Paul Ferrini 
 
Joshua Tree California Kivari the Label
 

YOU

First things first. YOU are incredible. There is someone in this world, whether you know them or not, who admires you. They might admire your sense of humour, your hair, your style, your legs or your charisma. Just like you admire things about other people, people admire things about you. 

I don't know about you, but there have been a few times where I have said something like 'uhh, my hair looks so dry,' or 'this dress doesn't suit my body type,' and whoever I'm with, will have the complete opposite opinion. Not because they're lying to make me feel better, but because we are all SO picky and hard on ourselves, and majority of the time nobody else would notice or care about these tiny things we obsess and feel self conscious over. Think about it the other way around. How many times has a friend said something and you've thought 'I have never even noticed that spot on your face,' or 'I love your freckles, I can't believe you hate them!'

Next time you're feeling self conscious about something, remind yourself that you are the only one judging. (If other people are judging, then you don't need those people in your life, and judging only comes from jealousy.)

EXAMPLE: I used to absolutely hate the gap in my two front teeth and I was willing to spend thousands on braces to get rid of it. I was holding off because of money and auditions, and in the meantime, I started to notice a lot of people complimenting my gap. Now, other people's opinions shouldn't change yours, but in this instance it made me feel a little more confident. I forgot about it for a while, and I started to make an effort to love my gap. I would see it in photos, and instead of looking at it with disgust, I would look at it and be thankful. I liked that it was different and I liked how it shaped my face. Overtime, I genuinely and completely learned to love and accept my gap!
 
Pass Around the Smile Carefree
 

An exercise to assist Self Love 

Lie down alone, somewhere quiet and peaceful. Close your eyes, and focus on your breathing. Once you have come to a place of calm, imagine yourself standing in an empty room. See yourself come out of your body, and rise above. You're now looking down at you, but from an outsiders point of view. You're not you anymore, so you don't have to feel uncomfortable complimenting yourself. Now go crazy. Really look at yourself, and force yourself to realise what you love about yourself. When you see something you don't like, be thankful for it and force yourself to see the beauty in it. 

Self love doesn't just make you feel comfortable in your own skin, it also opens you up to so many more opportunities, relationships and circumstances that you block when you're in a state of self consciousness. Now, you're not going to change, unless you truly want to change. Decide that feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin and attracting amazing new opportunities and people is important to you. This literally makes me so excited writing this! I can't wait until you see changes! 

YOU are the most important person in your life

Again, this is not selfish. YOU are the most important person in your life, because in order to help and be there for the ones you love, you have to be completely happy and in tune with yourself. To do this, you have to love yourself. Self love needs to be a priority. If everyone loved and accepted themselves, there would be no competing and no judgement. When you're happy within yourself and in a state of alignment and gratitude, you're constantly giving love, positivity and happiness, and the world needs more of that.

Because she competes with no one, no one can compete with her. - Lao Tze
 
Live Your Life - Law of Attraction
 

Help others love themselves! 

Helping other people feels good, and when you help others it will always come back to you. I make an effort to compliment my family, friends and strangers as much as I can. Not only does it boost their confidence and put a smile on their face, but it also helps you have realisations about yourself that you might not have been open to before. 

Forgive your mistakes.

We all make mistakes, big and small. While exploring self love, you must remember to be kind to yourself and easily forgive. It's very easy to stress and feel guilty over something you've done, but I'm here to tell you something... that is a waste of time and energy! You made that mistake for a reason, and one day soon it will all make sense. For now... be kind, forgive yourself and move on. 

Protect yourself and your energy! 

Be careful who you surround yourself with! Make a conscious effort to limit negative situations and people in your life. If you have to be in these situations or around these people, KILL THEM WITH POSITIVITY AND KINDNESS! (And try your best to not let them drain or affect your amazing energy!) 

 
Positivity Self Love Cleo Massey
 

Enjoy life!

We feel good when we're doing things that make us happy right?! It's much easier to practice self love when you're surrounded by the people and situations you want! So get yourself to that! Do whatever it takes to get the job you want, surround yourself with the people that lift you up, not bring you down! Create a life that YOU love. Don't worry about what others think. It's a pretty amazing world, and we can make of it whatever we like. 

Have fun, be bold, be YOU!

Cle xxx 

Thoughts Become Things

Did you know our brains can't distinguish the difference between imagination and reality? This means, that you can trick your mind into creating whatever you want. It sounds too good to be true, but I and hundreds of the best scientists around the world (like how I just casually put myself in the bracket of one of the best scientists in the world), can tell you that it IS true. The things you think about, you bring about. 

 
Queensland Cleo Massey Pass Around the Smile
 

ALRIGHT, HOW DO I START?

Believe. 

A lot of us use the Law of Attraction without realising, which means a lot of us already trick our minds and bring what we want into reality without knowing. For example, you might have thought in the past 'It would be so nice if someone took me out to dinner.' You forget about it and then that night or a couple of nights later, someone takes you out to dinner. You think, what a coincidence?! Or maybe you're thinking about an old friend, forget about it and then they message you. YOU brought all of these 'coincidences' into your life. 

Now, this works hand in hand with the Law of Attraction, which says to ASK, BELIEVE and RECEIVE. Tricking your mind comes under the BELIEVE part. For example; say you want your boss to love the presentation you've been working on. ASK the Universe something like, 'Universe, I ask that you help and guide me so that I can complete this presentation in a way that will impress my boss beyond words.'

Next, you want to believe... now is the time to really imagine, pretend you're a child playing with your toys and creating this surreal world around you. Imagine your Boss' voice, telling you what you want to hear, feel the feeling of receiving that news. Imagine yourself celebrating with a bottle of champagne afterwards. Really see it, feel it and believe it. 

Receiving is actually one of the trickiest parts of the Law of Attraction, but this blog isn't about that. If you're interested in a more in depth description of the blocks that surround receiving, check this blog out. 

This blog is about your thoughts! So... 

 
Positive Lifestyle Blogger - Cleo Massey
 

You've Started... Now What?!

Take control of your thoughts. 

I've said this a number of times, but in case you're a new reader I'll say it again. We have 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day, so there is no way you can control all of your thoughts. Not even Oprah could do that. Actually, Oprah might be able to do that. Oprah could probably do that, she is amazing. But seriously, don't feel guilty about the negative thoughts you have. It's natural. It's annoying and puts a damper on your day, but sometimes we just can't help it. 

What you can do is this. Choose which thoughts to give your attention too. Thought 1: Your friend Jack is really annoying you. Thought 2: Jack really helped you when you were going through a hard time. It's pretty obvious which thought you should give your focus too right? When someone or something is annoying you or creating negative thoughts in your mind, turn it around. Don't give it a second. Always focus on the good. No matter how bad your mood and thoughts are that day, you can always turn a negative thought into a positive one.

Once you change that initial negative thought it will build. Let's go back to Jack helping you in the past. You then might think how good he made you feel at that time, because of how good you felt, you were able to come out of that rut, because Jack helped you out of that rut, you then landed a new job. One good thought stems to another good thought and once you keep building on that, the energy inside of you becomes positive and magnetic. You're now what they call 'in alignment.'

 
Cleo Massey Australian Actress
 

Being in Alignment

What does that mean?!

You will know when you're in alignment. You will feel INCREDIBLE, good things will happen to and around you, coincidences will occur all the time and life will feel exciting and simple, like a wave that keeps rolling in the right direction. 

You have the power to get yourself in alignment no matter the day, time or mood you're in. Your thoughts are powerful, all you need to do is think about things that make you genuinely happy and build on that. Once you build and build, you will eventually get yourself to a state of alignment. 

Once you're in this state, you can manifest ANYTHING you want. There is no higher vibrational state than being in alignment, while remaining grateful and visualising exactly what you want. 

NOTE: You have to believe these thoughts. It does take effort. Thinking 'I am a happy person, everyone wants to be around me' while crying and hating on yourself won't work. Changing your thought pattern and believing it can be the most important thing in your life. 

 
Cleo Massey H20 Just Add Water
 

How Changing Your Thoughts Will Change Your Life

& examples...

Changing your thoughts to happy and positive thoughts will make you shine on the inside and the outside. When you're truly happy, you will naturally attract good people, good things and good circumstances. By attracting good things, only better things will follow. 

Once you're in alignment and thinking positively, guess what you're doing? Tricking your mind into changing your thoughts to things! It's actually pretty simple, the key is just to BE happy. To BE happy, you have to focus on the POSITIVE. Focusing on the positive and creating exciting visualisations of what you want in your mind, WILL become your reality. 

You have the power and the sooner you start, the sooner you'll get what you want. 

I wanted to share a personal experience I had using the principle of 'your thoughts become things'! I love hearing other people's Law of Attraction success stories, it inspires me so much as you're hearing it first hand! (Whenever you're feeling a bit negative or searching for some inspiration type into Youtube, LOA Success Stories.) 

SO, the other day something really amazing happened! I was doing a guided meditation on Youtube, and I was visualising the perfect role I want to land in a film. I was imagining myself in the role, on set, at the premiere, etc. I was getting so excited, and really letting my mind wander!

All of a sudden, the letter A popped into my head. I don't know why, but I knew that the role I was about to receive would start with A. Anyway, I forgot about it, went to sleep and the next day went for a walk. While I was walking the name Anna popped into my head. Again, I don't know why it did, but I knew it had something to do with a role. I thought it was weird because that's my Mum's name.

Again, I forgot about it and later that day I got an email from my agent with an audition attached. The character's name that I was going for was Ana! I didn't realise until five minutes later... and then I thought, oh my gosh, I went back to the script to check, and realised that the biggest coincidence had just happened. Yes it was one N instead of two, but who cares! The role also wasn't perfect for me, but any chance to audition is an amazing opportunity. This could open up so many other possibilities and it shows that I am in complete alignment with my thoughts, and I am beginning to attract things! 

Coincidences aren't just coincidences, they're signs from the Universe to let you know you're on the right path. I LOVE COINCIDENCES!  Make sure you listen and watch out for them. They are so powerful as they're created from your thoughts and your mind

Don't underestimate the power of your mind! 

Cleo xx

PHOTOGRAPHY: Natalie Imgraben. Instagram @natalieimgraben

 
Travel Australia New South Wales
 

Finding the Right Path For You

Finding your path can be super easy, or super hard, it can take you your whole life, or you can fall into it straight away. There are a lot of people who are happy (enough) with their lives, but please don't confuse this with being HAPPY. Is 'happy enough', enough?

You have a path out there that is made for you, all you have to do is find it and when you do, it feels right and so damn good!  

 
Cleo Massey - Happiness in the Sunflower Fields - Gold Coast/NSW
 

Now, making sure you don't confuse 'feels right' with 'right' is hard, because even if you're on the right path you can still have good days and bad days, good moods and bad moods and you can still make mistakes and be riddled with self doubt. So how do we know if we're on the right path?

A few things to keep in mind are:

  • Your talents
  • Your desires and dreams
  • Coincidences 
  • Repetitious signs 
  • Whatever you're scared of (This is usually where your passion lies!) 
 
Sunflower Fields - Farm & Co - Kingscliff, New South Wales. (On border of Gold Coast Queensland) 
 

A lot of people are in careers which make them feel comfortable, stable, and relaxed and I can see why, all of those are great feelings! Yet a lot of these people aren't stepping up within their career or switching careers because of insecurities, money, self doubt and fear. Some people assume they're on the right path and get comfortable, not realising there is another path more suited to them waiting to be walked on.

You might feel like you are on the right path because the job you're in is giving you the money you need to feed your family, or maybe your parents were in the same field so it's 'right' to take over the business, maybe you fell into the job and keep easily working your way up because you're not challenged? All of these are very valid reasons to stay where you are and never settle for anything else, but let me tell you about my journey! 

 
Cleo Massey - H20 Just Add Water - Pass Around the Smile. Actress, blogger, screen writer, speaker
 

When I was 11 I got my first acting role on a series called 'H20 Just Add Water.' I filmed this series for four years and I can't tell you how right it felt! I was in my element, I loved acting, set was half an hour away from my home, I met life long friends and contacts, and it gave me the boost I needed in my career.

When things are right, nothing stands in your way and everything flows. The description of the role when I went to audition for H20 was, 'overweight Greek kid,' and my skinny, pale, blonde self got the role. At the time we didn't even think it was worth auditioning for as I was nothing like the character description but clearly, the role was meant for me! There were so many other coincidences that happened along the way, one being that my on screen sister's character name was already named 'Cleo.' (Remember coincidences aren't accidents, they're signs from the Universe.) 

After finishing H20, I worked so hard to land another role. I spent thousands on head shots, flying to Sydney and LA for auditions, visas, courses etc. It has now been eight years of working my bum off to be a successful actor since finishing H20.

In 2015, I decided to start this Blog. The idea came out of nowhere, I got started straight away and everything was coming to me really easily. I couldn't believe I was enjoying something just as much as acting. All of a sudden, acting wasn't my ONLY passion. After writing blogs, I began writing my first film. I finished that film a while after, and am currently working on two other screen writing projects! I also have been given the opportunity to speak at events and I'm now loving using Pass Around the Smile as a verbally interactive project as well as a blog. So let me get this straight.... now not only do I love acting, I love blogging, screen writing and public speaking! 

This doesn't mean acting isn't the right path for me. It means at that time, it wasn't right. The Universe pushed me to realise I had other talents and interests. To be honest, looking back I ignored the Universe for SO long because I was scared and I thought that acting was my only passion. 

 
Positive, inspiring, law of attraction, motivating and self love based quotes. 
 

I want other people to realise that there is so much more out there for you. Whoever you are, wherever you are, look for the path that makes you feel good, nervous, excited, challenged and amazing! It doesn't have to be just one thing! It can be, but it doesn't have to be. If you end up having 9 career changes, then awesome! You've experienced so much! Each one of these experiences may have been a part of the Universe's plan to get you to where you're supposed to be.

You know you're on the right path when it feels right, coincidence's happen ALL THE TIME and everything flows. It's important to trust the Universe's guidance, take risks, try new things and BELIEVE in yourself. This life is yours to live, make it a crazy exciting one! 

"Life paths are just like foot paths, they both lead you to several different destinations on the journey!" - Pass Around the Smile.

(P.S) a book that helped me so much on the journey to discovering my right path, was the Manifestation Miracle. You can buy it online and download it. It really is amazing! If you like The Secret, you will LOVE this!) 

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Wearing: Kivari, again!

Photography: Natalie Imgraben - Instagram: @natalieimgraben

Cleo xx

7 Steps to Manifesting Your Dream Life

Manifesting! The most exciting and addictive thing you'll ever do! 

1. WHAT DO YOU WANT?

Alright this is the fun part! I know the old 'make your goals realistic, 'take it slow so you don't disappoint yourself,' but you know what I say to that? BLA BLA BLA. 

I'm not saying lay back, relax and everything is going to come flowing your way. You still have to work for it, but what I'm saying is don't be afraid to aim high! Yes, create some smaller goals that you can work towards and complete in the near future so you feel inspired and proud of yourself, but what else do you want? What do you REALLY want? If you could have anything! A new house? A new job? A new group of friends? Unlimited money? A trip to Europe? To find happiness? Get your work published? Get a promotion? Loose weight? ANYTHING!!!

'The Secret', (an amazing Law of Attraction book) says to treat the Universe like the Genie in Aladdin, but instead of three wishes, you have unlimited! I know this can sound wishy washy, fairy-taley and a little bit magic, but here's the thing... IT IS MAGIC, but it's also been scientifically proven by some of the greatest scientists ever known, that the Law of Attraction is just as strong and viable as the Law of Gravity, you just have to know how to use it. 

2. ASK THE UNIVERSE

This is pretty simple. Once you're clear on what you want, ask the Universe! When I'm trying to manifest something, I try to ask when I'm alone. Whether I'm on a walk, on my lunch break or before I go to sleep. I concentrate completely on what I'm asking for, making sure I'm really clear and present in the moment. 

Also be careful how you ask. Can you see the difference in these questions?

-Universe, I don't want to suck on the presentation I have tomorrow. (Don't use any negative words.) 

-Universe, I want to do really well on the presentation tomorrow. (Okay, but always good to add some gratitude) 

-Universe, I'm so thankful that I'm going to ace my presentation tomorrow. (A lot more powerful!) 

What you can also do, is speak like it's already happened:

-Universe, I'm so thankful that I did an amazing job on my presentation. (The most powerful!) 

3. VISUALIZE

I love visualising, because not only is it exciting, but it also puts you on a great vibration, allowing you to attract good things into your life easily. 

There are two ways to visualise:

The first: Visualising after you have asked for something specific.

Focus on whatever that is. Try not to let your mind wander, you don't want to confuse yourself or the Universe. Try to separate asking for different things. For example: I wouldn't say, Universe, I really want to land a role in a comedy series, attract more money and go on a holiday. I would seperate them, whether it's by hours or days, just make sure you give each dream it's own time. 

The second: Flexible visualising.

Visualising can be really flexible. Allow your mind to soar! Sometimes before bed I will visualise how I want my next day to go, or maybe even the next week. I imagine all the amazing things that are going to happen and all the amazing opportunities that are going to come my way. I don't focus on anything in particular, just a whole heap of good stuff! 

This is a good way of visualising if you're not quite sure what you want. You might think 'I just want to be happy, and I want to attract good things.' Well lie there and imagine all the things that make you feel good flowing into your life. This is exciting because you will start noticing coincidences and situations in your life that make you really happy, yet you never manifested the situation in particular, you just manifested the feeling. 

Also, in moments when you're visualising and you quiet your mind, you are able to receive answers you didn't even know you were searching for.

4. ACT 'AS IF'

Acting 'as if' is quite hard, but once you get in the flow of it, it really works! This means acting as if you have whatever you're trying to manifest.

Say if it's a new car. Every time you go to leave your house, get excited as you would if your new car was waiting outside for you to drive. If you're trying to manifest more money, act as if you have money! Spend the extra $2 for fries with your burger, pay for the hotel with the sea view, donate to charity! The more you give, the more you get back. If you're constantly on a budget and saying things like 'I have no money,' 'I'm poor,' 'I can't afford it,' well then you're really not helping yourself. All the Universe hears is poor, can't and no money. Just like a Google search, the Universe hears your key words and sends more of that your way! 

5. YOU HAVE PLACED YOUR ORDER, NOW RELAX

I read in 'The Secret', that once you ask the Universe for what you want, treat it just like you have placed an order online. Say you have just purchased a t-shirt online. You've paid for it and got the conformation email. It's yours right? You would 100% believe in your mind that it's coming to you. 

Treat the Universe the same. It's coming. It's nearly here. It's yours.  

6. ENJOY AND BE THANKFUL

I say this a lot because it's really important. If you can't be thankful for what you have NOW, you will never attract anything new and exciting into your life. If you're reading this blog, you must have some kind of device. That's something to start with, if you have a computer, phone or iPad you're lucky! 

You need to get yourself to a place where you're 100%, completely and utterly in love and thankful for EVERYTHING in your life. Even the negative stuff. The negative stuff in life helps us grow and appreciate the good stuff! 

7. RECIEVE

This step seems so easy, but it's a little misleading. At the end of it all, you will receive what you have manifested! HOW EXCITING! You literally turned your dreams into reality with your mind, all because you believed you could. 

NOW, I want to share something that happened to me. I manifested something amazing into my life and then when it came, I freaked out. I thought I wasn't good enough and thought they had made a mistake choosing me. (P.s. if you struggle with self-doubt, read this blog.) 

So I basically rejected receiving and then guess what happened? They took it away from me! It was all my fault though, I look back and completely understand why everything happened how it did. 

When you receive, you need to receive with gracious, confident and accepting arms! Be thankful and know that this is meant for you and work forward with it.

FUN FACT: 

Do you know it is as easy to attract $5 than it is to attract $5 million? It's true! The only thing that's stopping you is your mind. If you can attract something small, you can attract something big.

The Universe doesn't recognise big or little - that's a human concept, it simply recognises what you want, and delivers it to you. (If you know and trust the process.)

Cleo xx

RESET YOUR MINDSET!

Resetting your mindset can be a really powerful tool in helping you create a life exactly how you want it. It's amazing (and a little scary) how many opportunities, coincidences, people and circumstances we block if we're not in the right frame of mind. 

We have so many thoughts in a day and as life gets busier, it's so much harder to control these thoughts and to keep our frame of mind clear and positive. Keeping your mind clear and positive creates a ripple like effect out into the Universe (otherwise called a frequency) and what you're thinking about, will then come about.

It's the Law of Attraction! 

HOW DO I KNOW IF I NEED TO CHANGE MY MINDSET?

You need to change your mindset if you're struggling with the following:

  • Jealousy
  • Being stuck in a rut (Physically, socially or in your mind) 
  • Time management (Managing your time equally between work, family and social life)
  • Thinking negatively
  • Talking negatively
  • Doubting yourself
  • Lack of inspiration and motivation
  • Unsure of which path to take
  • Turning to your phone/computer/social media when you're overwhelmed 

SO, HOW DO I RESET MY MINDSET?!

Well, there's a few things but let's start with this. 

You have to WANT and be WILLING to change. 

Just like any problem you might have, you're not going to be able to change unless you really want to. 

Get yourself to a point of NEEDING this change. Visualise yourself after this change and feel the feeling of relief and completion. 

Really think about what resetting your mindset means to you. Why did you choose to read this blog and start on the pathway of resetting you mindset? Do you need to clear your headspace? Stop judging people? Focus on something in particular? Begin to think more positively? 

TAKE SOME TIME OUT

I get that life is busy, but in order to clear your head, you have to clear your time. If you're studying - take a study break, if you're a parent - get a babysitter, if your work hours are demanding - take a personal leave day. Your mental health is so important. Small problems like getting overwhelmed or constantly thinking and talking negatively can effect your mental health in big ways down the track. (Even if you don't think it's a problem now.) 

Do yourself a favour by taking a day or a few hours out to re-asses your life and your mindset. This hour or two of self help can be life changing. 

JUST SIT 

If you're into meditation:

Take at least half an hour to meditate in a quiet place with no distractions. Calm your mind, visualise yourself releasing negative energy and breathing in a white light of positive energy. 

Try to get yourself to a state of nothing, so you're seeing nothing and you're thinking nothing. Ask the Universe (or whatever you believe in) to clear your mind and to help you focus on what is important. If you don't know what you need to be focusing on in your life, ask for guidance. 

Guided meditations that I recommend: 

(This is just music, but the frequency (852 Hz is connected to the principle of Light, and Light is a higher form of bioenergy.

This frequency can be used as a means for opening up communication with your higher self and awaken your intuition and inner strength. This frequency can be used to cleanse trapped negative energy and dissolve fear, overthinking and worries.)

If you're not into meditation: 

Still find a quiet calm place to sit. Take in your surroundings and think about what you love about your life, and what you don't. Become clear about how you want to spend your time and how you want to use your energy. 

You could also try one of the guided meditations above and see if you like it! I used to turn my nose up at meditation, but after I tried it and experienced instant results it was hard to stop! 

BE GRATEFUL

The Law of Attraction states that you cannot attract anything new into your life if you're not 100% grateful for what you already have. Now, you can't be cheeky with the Law of Attraction. You can't just say 'okay yeah, I'm grateful for my house,' but be thinking in your mind 'I hate this old dump.' It's not going to work like that. 

You need to get yourself to a state of being SO genuinely grateful. Do what you need to do to get there. What about the memories that house has given you? The happy times you spent in it? How the paint reminds you of your family home growing up. Look around, and do whatever it takes to get yourself to a state of gratefulness. 

Now write down everything you're grateful for. This is SO powerful. I'm talking EVERYTHING from the safety and health of you and your family, to the money in your bank account, to the clothes you own, to the book you're going to read that night, to the person that smiled at you earlier, to the time you have to relax etc.  

If you haven't read my blog on the 30 Day Gratefulness Challenge - Click here. - It literally changed my life! 

LET GO OF THE SMALL STUFF

One of my New Years Resolutions was to stop sweating the small stuff, and I tell ya what! I am loving it. Now that I'm making a conscious effort to focus on the positives and not giving small issues the time of day, I realise how much time and negative energy I was wasting stressing on these tiny things! Think about all the times you have wasted in the past stressing about things that don't matter at all now. 

VISUALIZE

Visualisation is not only fun, inspiring and exciting, it is productive! Visualising what you want puts you on an amazing frequency and sends you on the way to receiving the good stuff in life! 

Visualising can be done at anytime - while meditating, while on the bus, while reading or while on your lunch break. Although, the most powerful time to visualise is when you first wake, or when you're about to fall asleep. 

For those of you who don't know what visualising is, it's basically imagining what you want. Creating a little movie in your mind and playing it out exactly how you want your life to go. Remember, your mind can't tell the difference between imagination and real life - so trick it!  

EXPECT GOOD STUFF

To receive and to fully change your mindset you need to believe that you're worth it all. You need to EXPECT all of this amazing stuff. If you don't believe, you won't receive! 

Wake up every morning with a thankful heart knowing that good things are on their way to you.

MANTRAS

It doesn't just end after this little session unfortunately. You can't just take an hour out and your hard work is done. While the time you take to complete these steps will play a huge part in resetting your mindset and you will feel instantly refreshed, you need to remind yourself each day about what you want and who you are. 

Self talk is a vital exercise in your minds health. Telling yourself you are something and believing it is SO powerful. 

Figure out what mantras work for you and for what you want. Say them over and over, and really BELIEVE what you're saying! 

Some examples:

  • I am loved
  • I am focused
  • I am succesful
  • I am healthy
  • I am worthy
  • I am abundant
  • I am happy
  • I am relaxed
  • I believe in myself
  • My mind is clear
  • I only focus on the good
  • I am finding it easy to stay positive
  • Everything is working out how it should
  • I am thankful for the Universe's guidance
  • I am thankful that everything is under control 

Cleo xx

Wearing: Kivari the Label 

Get Rid of Self Doubt - Time For You to Shine!

Ever notice those people who are literally shining? They glow, constantly smile and seem to have a really positive affect on people around them? Well, you can be one of those people and I can tell you exactly when you will become one of those people...

 
 

We can all make a little bit of effort here and there, try to believe in ourselves, do some positive self talk, maybe begin to accept our flaws. Nope, sorry that's not enough. You need to COMPLETELY believe in yourself. COMPLETELY love yourself. You can't just tell yourself you're amazing with words but keep thinking negatively.

You need to do whatever it takes to help yourself realise that you're amazing, capable, strong, independent, courageous and competent.

You need to get rid of self doubt.

Unfortunately it's hard to get rid of self doubt completely. Among the thousands of thoughts we have in a day, we're going to have a few bad ones here and there. Just don't give them the time of day. Blow them a sassy kiss goodbye. 

It's the beginning of 2018, it's time to make some changes. It's time to become who you want to be, and to do exactly what you want to do. Letting go of self doubt will speed up this process immensely. 

I can't stress how important this is. The Law of Attraction won't work for you unless you completely believe that you're capable and deserving of what you want. No matter how much visualising, and work with the Law of Attraction you do... if you let self doubt take over, your subconscious will block the overall process. 

If you want to fast forward your life into a spiral of happiness, good things, great people and amazing experiences, then here are some steps that will help you get there, and fast!  

BE BRAVE

This is SO vital. You need to be so brave, so brave that it gives you butterflies and scares you a real lot! Nothing exciting, incredible and invigorating has ever come from comfort zones. 

So many times we sit on ideas because we're scared of judgment, failure or embarrassment. Well it's time to let that go, you can either live a life that isn't completely true to you, and live with regret and 'what ifs,' or you can give it a go! 

Ask yourself... whats the worst that could happen? You get judged? Well those people judging you are either jealous or not happy within themselves. Scared of failure? Well I think that you should fear regret more than failure, and failure is a part of success. I can guarantee every idol of yours has experienced failure. I read an amazing quote the other day, it was... "Failure is a bruise, not a tattoo." 

 
 

POSITIVE SELF TALK

Our body is filled with 60-70% water, and it has been proven by scientists all over the world that water is affected positively and negatively by words and emotions projected its way. So imagine what negative self talk is doing to your body. 

It's so easy to get angry with yourself. 'I'm stupid,' 'I suck at this,' 'I can't do this.' These words are so damaging to us. We are made up of energy, and you're only turning what energy you have inside of you to nasty and negative energy. It is natural to have upsetting thoughts but you need to make an effort to change them instantly. You need to tell yourself 'I can do this,' 'I am capable of this,' 'this is what I am meant to do,' 'I am thankful for the Universe's help and guidance.' Keep saying it until you believe it. 

Words are so powerful, and can not only change the energy and water patterns in your body, but can change your mood in a second, ushering in the good energy that you need and want. 

 
 

GET STARTED 

This is a big one. How many times have you had an idea, got really excited about it, and then gone on your phone and started scrolling? Or turned on the TV? Maybe went out with your friends and put it off. Yes, whatever you want to do is going to take effort, yes it's going to be a little difficult, yes it's going to take time. 

Let's take our minds back to a time we felt really proud of ourselves. Maybe you got on A on an exam you studied really hard for. Maybe something you worked on got published, maybe you finished a class or a course. Feeling proud of yourself is such an amazing feeling and helps you get on an amazing frequency which helps attract other incredible things. 

YOU can get yourself there. YOU have the power to achieve whatever you want. YOU have the resources and the mind power to start something. You'll feel so proud and accomplished that you will get yourself on a positive streak and attract things that you once thought weren't possible. Isn't that exciting?

So moral of the story, get started now OKAY?! Be so brave it scares you, and motivate yourself kindly. YOU are your biggest cheerleader, so help yourself out! 

Cleo xx

 
 

3 New Year Resolutions for the Best Year Yet!

Setting goals is so exciting! A chance to work toward something you want, a chance to move forward and a chance to be proud of yourself! This year I decided to put a lot of thought into my New Years Resolutions because I AM going to make 2018 the best year yet! YOU can make this the best year yet too! No one else but you has the power to create your life exactly how you want it! 

When setting your New Year goals/resolutions, it's important to clear your space, and sit somewhere quiet, preferably in nature! I encourage you to really focus on what you want. Meditation can help this process. Sometimes we aren't sure what we want! And that is okay. Ask the Universe to guide you, and as the old saying goes, listen to your heart! Think about areas that are lacking in your life. Don't focus on this for too long or dwell on what you don't have, just give yourself some time to realise 'okay, I really need to work on that,' or 'I really want that!'

Keep in mind, New Year Resolutions don't have to be something totally new! It can be something like 'keep my job,' or 'maintain a great relationship with my family.' Also, notice here how I didn't say 'don't lose my job' and 'try hard not to fight with my family?' 

The Law of Attraction states that what you think about or ask for the most, you will attract. For example: If you are always thinking, 'Uhhh I can't lose weight,' then the Universe hears 'can't,' 'weight' and a negative attitude. Change your tune, 'I am toned, and my ideal body shape!

Think of the Universe like Google. If you type in, NOT AMERICAN MOVIES, what's going to come up in your search?! AMERICAN MOVIES! It's easy to focus on what we don't have, because we want it it so bad! I get it.. I do it too. However, while you're creating your New Years Resolutions, keep it positive. Stop dwelling on your lack of something. Dwell on how you can make that something yours! Be careful of the keywords you use... because words are more powerful than you think! 

Anyway, that was a long introduction... I would like to share my New Years Resolutions with you! 

1. GIRL BOSS

I have decided to focus a lot of 2018 on my career. I have always been very career driven, and I constantly put my all into making my dreams happen! However, I'm a bit of a pushover. I'll take no as an answer, I won't call that company/person back because I 'don't want to annoy them,' I'll find myself scrolling aimlessly and wasting time when I'm feeling overwhelmed (don't we all), and I don't sell (believe) myself enough. 

WELL, I've decided enough is enough, and I hope that this can inspire you to think the same! I have a few paths that I am following; Acting, Screen Writing, Blogging and Motivational Speaking. I wasn't always striving for all of this, but overtime I developed new passions, and whilst going with the flow of the Universe, these career paths have presented themselves to me! 

So I'm going to push, and push and not hold back! Don't ever apologise for something you want! Know that you're capable and push forward like there is no tomorrow! That's what I'll be doing, anyway!

2. DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF

This is a big one for me! I am an absolute sucker for stressing over the smallest of things! Most of these things will have nothing to do with me, or I will have no control over! What's the point on wasting negative energy stressing over something that has already happened or something that you can't change? NO POINT! Well this year, I'm going to put all my energy into the good things in life! 

Using negative energy not only makes you angry, but it can make you sick, stressed and confused. It's actually really bad for your overall health. A lot of the time, negative energy is stemmed from small things; A comment a friend makes, spilling petrol on yourself, your phone dying, not being invited somewhere, a co-worker annoying you etc. Look at these situations from the outside... is it worth getting yourself all worked up over? Nope! 

If it's not going to matter in a few weeks, then make a conscious effort not to give it a thought now! 

3.ZEN 

If you read my blogs, you will know that I started meditating this year. I'm still amazed at how much it has helped me, but I still haven't allowed myself to do it as much as I want to! In 2018, I'm going to make a big effort to do more meditation, to spend more time out in nature, to read more, and to be more present. 

Being present is an amazing feeling. To let go of your phone, to let go of the worries in your life, and to just BE! Take in where you are... the company, the surroundings and be thankful. It clears your mind in so many ways, and opens you up to greater things. 

I read something a few weeks ago, that said 'the most relaxing times, are the most productive times.' I couldn't agree more! At first I thought this quote kind of contradicted my resolution of 'Girl Boss', but now I realise it goes together perfectly! To be a career driven girl-boss-lady-thing, I'm going to have to take time out to relax and re-set myself, so I'm able to be the most productive and refreshed girl-boss-lady-thing I can be!

Sometimes it's hard to figure out what the next step in your life might be, or which direction is the best to take. If you're struggling coming up with some New Years Resolutions that feel right then ask yourself this. 

What is going to make YOU proud of YOU? 

There is no better feeling than making progress, working hard and being proud of yourself, so do whatever you need to do to get that feeling. 

Cleo xx

IDEAS FOR NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS THAT WILL LEAD TO A MORE WHOLESOME LIFE

  • Get a Gratitude Journal, and use it everyday
  • Read books on the Law of Attraction
  • Fall asleep to a manifestation meditation 3 nights a week
  • When thinking negatively, replace it with 10 good thoughts until you have forgotten about your initial bad thought. 
  • Love yourself more! (You have to love yourself completely before you can love anyone else.)
  • Remind yourself that everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about
  • Treat yourself
  • Make strangers smile
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Photos taken at The Borrowed Nursery - Gold Coast 

5 ways to make today AMAZING

If it were up to us, we would want everyday to be an amazing day. If it were up to us, we would want everyday to be inspiring, fun and uplifting! If it were up to us, we would only want to be surrounded by amazing people and exciting opportunities. Well guess what, it is up to us. It's up to YOU! 

No one else can determine how your day is going to go. It's completely up to YOU. You can choose to have a good day, or you can choose to have a bad day.

Unfortunately we can't control what happens around us, but we can control how we react to it! By being positive you are going to lessen the chances of negative things happening around you, but at the end of the day, other people's lives, are other people's lives. Not yours, not your problem.

Now, back to making today amazing! I always remember this section from 'The Secret'... In Aladdin, you know how the Genie says, 'your wish is my command?' Think of it like this...YOU are Aladdin, and the Genie is the Universe. All along, this fairytale had the Law of Attraction down pat! To receive, you need to believe. Think of it as shopping online. You put your order in, pay for it, and then you 100% believe your package is coming right? Treat the Universe exactly the same! Tell the Universe what you want, and believe that it is coming your way. 

The power of the mind is so incredibly amazing. We literally have the power to control our lives. YOU have the power to do whatever you want in this world.

YOU have the energy you need to manifest your dreams.

You might be thinking... yeah well eventually I will manifest my dreams, and maybe one day I will get the money, or the car or the lifestyle I want. Yes... true. But start today! Small changes result in big and exciting things! 

So today... you wake up, and you want to have an AMAZING day... You want to be your best, most positive self, and you want to attract all the good, unbelievable, incredible, exciting opportunities, people and things in the world. YOU CAN! AND YOU WILL! 

Here are five ways to get started and make today AMAZING: 

  • GRATITUDE! - Say your thank yous! You're not going to attract anything new into your life if you're not thankful for what you already have! Start your day by saying out loud what you're thankful for. (It's amazing how articulating what you're thankful for makes you realise how lucky you are. It puts you in a positive mindset for the day ahead!) Check out my 30 day Challenge which explores this a bit further here: 30 Day Challenge
  • VISUALISE! - What do you want? Spend a minute, 2 minutes, 30 minutes, however long you can, visualising EXACTLY what you want. Not only does this get you excited and motivated, but you're moving forward in more ways than you can imagine. Remember... the brain can't distinguish what is imaginary and real... so trick it!
  • DISTRACT YOURSELF - While having time to meditate, relax and visualise is amazing, one of the main rules of the Law of Attraction is to LET GO! (To let go of your wish, and to trust that it is coming.) I never understood how I was supposed to 'let go' of something that I wanted so badly! Until I did it. I got busy, and forgot... and then BAM! It came to me. So distract yourself with work, with friends, with all of the things that make you HAPPY! 
  • TREAT YOURSELF! - I've said it once and I'll say it again. Stop stressing over the money or time you 'don't have,' stop feeling guilty for eating bad, or not finishing your work that day. We're allowed to fall behind, we're allowed to be lazy, and we're allowed to spend our hard earned money! If we were never lazy, we wouldn't know what it feels like to be productive! If we never spent our money, we wouldn't know how good it felt to earn it! If we never ate bad, we wouldn't get to experience those fun times where we can let loose and indulge!  
  • TRUST THE UNIVERSE! - And finally... trust! It's so exciting that we have a higher power to lean on. For some it might be God, a loved one in Heaven, the Universe, or something completely different! TRUST that you're being guided. If you're having a bad day, or if you're not feeling inspired... remember, the Universe has a plan for you. This is just a little detour, and one day we will understand why it happened. We all have our own path, and we're all on our way, or are already there. If you're on your way, enjoy the journey, if you're already there, be thankful! 

I hope you enjoyed today's blog! 

Cleo xx

PHOTOGRAPHY BY: Natalie Imgraben (She's seriously amazing)

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How to Deal with Negativity & Bullying

A while ago, I filmed a video for my Youtube channel about Bullying. I wanted to do this video for so long, and there were two reasons why; I wanted to help people who have been bullied, whether it's online or in person, and I wanted to teach the bullies out there a lesson! 

If you're a regular Pass Around the Smile reader, you would know that this blog is all about positivity, happiness, and self love!!! As humans in this amazing world, we are still faced with challenges and negativity in our lives. In this video I demonstrate how I was able to overcome some pretty harsh online negativity and turn it into a positive! 

You can do this with any negative situation in your life! The Universe sends us challenges, and negative situations so we can grow, and learn from them. We can't let these things in life get us down, so if you're unsure how to deal with the negative things in life, give this video a watch! 

I hope it helps! 

Cleo xx

Find Your Way

I know I've mentioned it before, but the book the Manifestation Miracle is AMAZING! It actually changed my life. 

When I was living in America, I was having a really hard time adapting to the hectic 'La La Land' life. I found the whole industry competitive and judgemental, I wasn't making any good friends, I was getting frustrated with the lack of auditions and meetings, and I was getting down because I wasn't surrounded by my family, boyfriend and friends. 

I was in a rut, and I wasn't helping myself by wallowing in it. Let's face it. Sometimes it's easier to wallow in it. We don't have to make the effort to be happy and positive, we can sit there and do nothing, cry and get some attention! It's natural, normal and OKAY!

But I decided enough was enough. I was crying over the smallest of things, even though at the time they were big! I had no idea what direction to go in and all of a sudden my career path felt so wrong. 

Then I read the Manifestation Miracle. I started meditating, and through my mediation I was eventually able to quiet my mind and get the answers I had been looking for. If you don't meditate or aren't spiritual, you will probably laugh at this! I used to turn my nose up at meditation until I tried it. 

As soon as I decided to change my mind set, and start listening to my heart, literally everything changed. Within days. It was incredible, but I wasn't shocked. I knew that all I had to do was change my mind set to see changes, but what was mind blowing, was the answers I got about my career. It became so clear what I needed to concentrate on, and it happened at just the right time. If you had told me 6 years ago that acting wasn't the only thing I should concentrate on, I wouldn't have believed you. But now I can see that mentoring other actors, sharing my experiences, exploring my other creative talents, and using my profile to spread positivity have become hugely important aspects of my life and career.  

In the Manifestation Miracle they talk about how you can find your exact life path. Every single person on this Earth has a certain path cut out for them, and when we find ourselves on that path everything will feel right. In the last 4 months or so since I've been back from the States, I've felt so in touch with my life path. I feel like I'm finally on the right track and I can't tell you how AMAZING that feels! I want everyone to find their right path so we can all feel amazing together! It might take some people years and years to find the right path for them, it may take some people no time at all. 

I'm not at all saying that if you're not on your right path you won't be happy. I don't think I was following the exact path that I should have been for the last seven years, but I still don't regret anything, and I was still very happy the majority of the time. But when something feels right, you know. You are happier more often, things fall into place easily, you feel like YOU and you're sure that you're living true to yourself. 

There are no such thing as coincidences. Every time a 'coincidence' happens, it's just the Universe either trying to teach you a lesson, or steer you in the right direction. The Universe sends you many signs, so listen in and follow! 

Once you find the right path, I promise you will know, and the way I found that was through meditation and trusting my instinct. Sometimes it's scary and overwhelming to trust your instinct, because it might take you to places that make you feel uncomfortable. But see it as exciting! Where is this journey going to take you?! You have this life, so live it to the fullest, take risks and as the old saying goes, 'listen to your heart!'

Cleo xx