Missing Steps in the Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is a Universal law which allows us to manifest WHATEVER we want into our lives. The 3 steps are said to be ASK, BELIEVE, RECEIVE. 

However, after years of being obsessed with the Law of Attraction and the infinite possibilities that the Universe has available to us, I have figured out a few steps that are constantly missed or looked over. 

If you have given the Law of Attraction a go and have been disappointed with the result, then maybe you're missing a few of these crucial steps. I won't go into detail about the original steps, ask, believe and receive, but if you're new to the Law of Attraction and want to know more about these steps, read this blog here and then come back to this blog post! 

1. FOCUS

Before the 'ask' step, it is SO important to get focused on exactly what you want. The Universe likes specific and clear visualisations. You can ask for as many things as you want, the Universe doesn't work in quantity's and also doesn't care whether it's sending $20 or $20,000 your way. There is enough abundance, happiness and amazing things out there for everyone. However, separate your desires and ask for one specific thing at a time. After getting clear about exactly what you want, free your space and your mind before asking. It's more powerful to ask in a quiet, peaceful environment, where you're focused and in tune with the Universe and your own energy. 

2. ASK

3. BELIEVE

4. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

It's all well and good to imagine yourself in your new role at work, or in that new car, or with a new partner, but if you don't believe that you can be a great worker, partner etc. then that's not enough. You need to know wholeheartedly that you deserve whatever you're asking for. You need to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF completely. You're good enough. You're capable enough and you're ready! 

5. SURRENDER

This is a huge one, and the lady who taught me all about this, is the amazing Gabrielle Bernstein. Don't try and control your wish. For example: Say you want a promotion at work. You ask the Universe while meditating, you really believe you're good enough for the role, you see yourself in the role and create the feelings of excitement through your body, tricking your brain into thinking that these visualisations are real life.

Then you keep thinking about it, and how it might come about. Maybe Matt from accounts will go away on a holiday and you will step in and keep the role, maybe the sales will go through the roof and they will need two people in that role, and you obsess over how this wish of yours will come into reality. The Universe ALWAYS knows the quickest, and best option for you. Often, the Universe has an even BETTER plan for you. A mantra I use is: I accept this, or something better. Surrendering to the Universe can be really difficult, because when we want something it's natural to keep thinking and obsessing over that thing. However, we have to make a conscious effort to let go of our desire and TRUST that the Universe knows the best way. Trying to control your desire gets in the way of the Universe's plan. Don't underestimate it's power. 

6. RECEIVE 

7. GRATITUDE  

I am guilty of receiving and not being grateful. In one instance, I actually had my desire taken away from me! When I received this desire, I was excited but kept second guessing it. "Why did they choose me?" "The role will probably be cut from the show." "I won't believe it until I'm on set." Well, the Universe heard me loud and clear and took my desire straight off me!

Luckily I am getting better at tuning into a positive frequency quickly and attracting the things I want. Because of this, I was actually able to manifest this desire back, which was pretty crazy! But the point is, gratitude is one of the highest vibrations you can put out into the Universe, so to me, it NEEDS to be included in the Law of Attraction. It's also pretty simple. After receiving, THANK the Universe. Accept your desire you have just manifested with open, accepting and GRATEFUL arms, knowing that you deserve it. 

I hope you enjoyed this blog! Please hit the love heart button if it helped you, and feel free to get in contact via the contact page if you have a burning desire for me to write about a certain topic! 

Cleo xx

Staying Focused

What is focus to you? Focus to me is remaining in alignment, staying positive and sticking to my goals! When I am completely focused on those three elements of my life, everything else seems to fall into place. I have clarity, I feel good and exciting things happen! 

I think we can all agree that moving forward, whether it be in your career, relationship, booking a holiday or even things like getting your tax done, brings on good feelings. If you're like me, it will give you a sense of pride and motivates you even more to keep going and to keep creating your life just how you want it!

However, we are all human and staying focused on things you want 24/7 isn't easy. If you read my blog, you will know that focusing on what you want is THE most important thing you can do. Why? Because whether you believe it or not, the Law of Attraction is always working. It depends on what you're focusing on as to whether the Law of Attraction is working to your advantage or disadvantage. The book, The Universe Has Your Back says; 'Where your attention goes, energy flows.' If you focus on the bad, you get the bad and more bad, but if you focus on the good, you get the good and more good! 

Now, let's talk about getting focused and staying focused (most of the time.) I'm not going to exaggerate and say, 'If you really work on it you can be focused 100% of the time for the rest of your life and be a positivity focused superhuman.' Let's be realistic here and work on staying focused the majority of the time. 

Most times, we lapse out of focus when we're feeling generally negative or down, after a weekend of partying or from tiredness or self doubt. When we're in this state of mind, the last thing we can be bothered doing is making an effort to turn our lazy and negative state of mind around. But this is the most important part! It's so easy to mope around, eat badly, have a cry, watch reality TV and aimlessly scroll through social media. Or how many of you have said 'I'll start tomorrow'? It's in these times you need to decide how you want to feel and how important it is to get to that. Do you want to feel happy? Inspired? Creative? Abundant? Positive? Motivated? Proud? Well my friend, you can feel all of that!

First of all YOU need to figure out what you want to focus on. I mentioned what I wanted to focus on above. You might notice that I haven't written down things like; family, relationship, career. When I focus on staying in alignment, remaining positive etc. my focus is controlled and things like family, my relationship and career all benefit and fall into place, because I feel good inside and I have the time, energy and love to give to those things. 

What do you want/need to focus on? It's time to write it down! I can't stress this enough! I read so many books on positivity and self love, and they all mention how important it is putting pen to paper. It's making it official and putting it out there into the Universe. Take your time.

Now that you know what you need to focus on, here are 7 ways to STAY focused. 

Reminders

Constantly remind yourself with post-it notes on your mirror, fridge, laptop etc. Have you ever felt the need to do or accomplish something so strongly, for example, 'I need to eat healthy. From tomorrow I am going to eat so well, this is so important to me and I'm GOING to make it happen,' then all of a sudden the next day when you're hungry and craving bad foods it doesn't seem that important anymore? Posting reminders everywhere helps your mind remember that sense of importance you once had and will help you stay on track. 

A healthy morning and night time routine! 

Going on your phone and scrolling through social media or playing games isn't the best way to start or end your day. Instead, focus on being present. Being present, whether it be chatting with your family/room mate/partner, reading, or meditating means the difference in your day being an okay one, to a productive, positive and focused one!  

Don't push yourself.

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is take time out to watch some mindless TV, or go for a walk. At the time, you might think, no I need to keep focused and get this done, but by exhausting yourself, you're not going to produce good work and you're going to end up overwhelmed. Don't feel guilty about taking time out. 

Checklists. 

Lists bring a sense of accomplishment and also ensures you did everything you set out to do. For me, checking off my list of big and little jobs clears my head. 

Meditation.

Speaks for itself. If you're not a meditator, I highly recommend starting. I used to think meditating was a waste of time... until I tried it and literally have never felt so clear, calm and present in my life! (If you're a beginner, find some guided meditations on Youtube.) 

Prioritising Importance.

Write down what is most important to you and figure out which areas you need to dedicate the most time and attention to. 

Listening to your heart!

What do you think the most about? What do you desire? What gets you excited? What gets you motivated? THAT is your life purpose. There is a reason that the old saying 'listen to your heart' has been around so long. It's so simple and so important. Deep down we all know what we want, don't ignore those feelings and don't waste time. Act now! 

Cleo xx

All photos, as per usual by Natalie Imgraben! 

Thoughts Become Things

Did you know our brains can't distinguish the difference between imagination and reality? This means, that you can trick your mind into creating whatever you want. It sounds too good to be true, but I and hundreds of the best scientists around the world (like how I just casually put myself in the bracket of one of the best scientists in the world), can tell you that it IS true. The things you think about, you bring about. 

 
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ALRIGHT, HOW DO I START?

Believe. 

A lot of us use the Law of Attraction without realising, which means a lot of us already trick our minds and bring what we want into reality without knowing. For example, you might have thought in the past 'It would be so nice if someone took me out to dinner.' You forget about it and then that night or a couple of nights later, someone takes you out to dinner. You think, what a coincidence?! Or maybe you're thinking about an old friend, forget about it and then they message you. YOU brought all of these 'coincidences' into your life. 

Now, this works hand in hand with the Law of Attraction, which says to ASK, BELIEVE and RECEIVE. Tricking your mind comes under the BELIEVE part. For example; say you want your boss to love the presentation you've been working on. ASK the Universe something like, 'Universe, I ask that you help and guide me so that I can complete this presentation in a way that will impress my boss beyond words.'

Next, you want to believe... now is the time to really imagine, pretend you're a child playing with your toys and creating this surreal world around you. Imagine your Boss' voice, telling you what you want to hear, feel the feeling of receiving that news. Imagine yourself celebrating with a bottle of champagne afterwards. Really see it, feel it and believe it. 

Receiving is actually one of the trickiest parts of the Law of Attraction, but this blog isn't about that. If you're interested in a more in depth description of the blocks that surround receiving, check this blog out. 

This blog is about your thoughts! So... 

 
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You've Started... Now What?!

Take control of your thoughts. 

I've said this a number of times, but in case you're a new reader I'll say it again. We have 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day, so there is no way you can control all of your thoughts. Not even Oprah could do that. Actually, Oprah might be able to do that. Oprah could probably do that, she is amazing. But seriously, don't feel guilty about the negative thoughts you have. It's natural. It's annoying and puts a damper on your day, but sometimes we just can't help it. 

What you can do is this. Choose which thoughts to give your attention too. Thought 1: Your friend Jack is really annoying you. Thought 2: Jack really helped you when you were going through a hard time. It's pretty obvious which thought you should give your focus too right? When someone or something is annoying you or creating negative thoughts in your mind, turn it around. Don't give it a second. Always focus on the good. No matter how bad your mood and thoughts are that day, you can always turn a negative thought into a positive one.

Once you change that initial negative thought it will build. Let's go back to Jack helping you in the past. You then might think how good he made you feel at that time, because of how good you felt, you were able to come out of that rut, because Jack helped you out of that rut, you then landed a new job. One good thought stems to another good thought and once you keep building on that, the energy inside of you becomes positive and magnetic. You're now what they call 'in alignment.'

 
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Being in Alignment

What does that mean?!

You will know when you're in alignment. You will feel INCREDIBLE, good things will happen to and around you, coincidences will occur all the time and life will feel exciting and simple, like a wave that keeps rolling in the right direction. 

You have the power to get yourself in alignment no matter the day, time or mood you're in. Your thoughts are powerful, all you need to do is think about things that make you genuinely happy and build on that. Once you build and build, you will eventually get yourself to a state of alignment. 

Once you're in this state, you can manifest ANYTHING you want. There is no higher vibrational state than being in alignment, while remaining grateful and visualising exactly what you want. 

NOTE: You have to believe these thoughts. It does take effort. Thinking 'I am a happy person, everyone wants to be around me' while crying and hating on yourself won't work. Changing your thought pattern and believing it can be the most important thing in your life. 

 
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How Changing Your Thoughts Will Change Your Life

& examples...

Changing your thoughts to happy and positive thoughts will make you shine on the inside and the outside. When you're truly happy, you will naturally attract good people, good things and good circumstances. By attracting good things, only better things will follow. 

Once you're in alignment and thinking positively, guess what you're doing? Tricking your mind into changing your thoughts to things! It's actually pretty simple, the key is just to BE happy. To BE happy, you have to focus on the POSITIVE. Focusing on the positive and creating exciting visualisations of what you want in your mind, WILL become your reality. 

You have the power and the sooner you start, the sooner you'll get what you want. 

I wanted to share a personal experience I had using the principle of 'your thoughts become things'! I love hearing other people's Law of Attraction success stories, it inspires me so much as you're hearing it first hand! (Whenever you're feeling a bit negative or searching for some inspiration type into Youtube, LOA Success Stories.) 

SO, the other day something really amazing happened! I was doing a guided meditation on Youtube, and I was visualising the perfect role I want to land in a film. I was imagining myself in the role, on set, at the premiere, etc. I was getting so excited, and really letting my mind wander!

All of a sudden, the letter A popped into my head. I don't know why, but I knew that the role I was about to receive would start with A. Anyway, I forgot about it, went to sleep and the next day went for a walk. While I was walking the name Anna popped into my head. Again, I don't know why it did, but I knew it had something to do with a role. I thought it was weird because that's my Mum's name.

Again, I forgot about it and later that day I got an email from my agent with an audition attached. The character's name that I was going for was Ana! I didn't realise until five minutes later... and then I thought, oh my gosh, I went back to the script to check, and realised that the biggest coincidence had just happened. Yes it was one N instead of two, but who cares! The role also wasn't perfect for me, but any chance to audition is an amazing opportunity. This could open up so many other possibilities and it shows that I am in complete alignment with my thoughts, and I am beginning to attract things! 

Coincidences aren't just coincidences, they're signs from the Universe to let you know you're on the right path. I LOVE COINCIDENCES!  Make sure you listen and watch out for them. They are so powerful as they're created from your thoughts and your mind

Don't underestimate the power of your mind! 

Cleo xx

PHOTOGRAPHY: Natalie Imgraben. Instagram @natalieimgraben

 
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7 Steps to Manifesting Your Dream Life

Manifesting! The most exciting and addictive thing you'll ever do! 

1. WHAT DO YOU WANT?

Alright this is the fun part! I know the old 'make your goals realistic, 'take it slow so you don't disappoint yourself,' but you know what I say to that? BLA BLA BLA. 

I'm not saying lay back, relax and everything is going to come flowing your way. You still have to work for it, but what I'm saying is don't be afraid to aim high! Yes, create some smaller goals that you can work towards and complete in the near future so you feel inspired and proud of yourself, but what else do you want? What do you REALLY want? If you could have anything! A new house? A new job? A new group of friends? Unlimited money? A trip to Europe? To find happiness? Get your work published? Get a promotion? Loose weight? ANYTHING!!!

'The Secret', (an amazing Law of Attraction book) says to treat the Universe like the Genie in Aladdin, but instead of three wishes, you have unlimited! I know this can sound wishy washy, fairy-taley and a little bit magic, but here's the thing... IT IS MAGIC, but it's also been scientifically proven by some of the greatest scientists ever known, that the Law of Attraction is just as strong and viable as the Law of Gravity, you just have to know how to use it. 

2. ASK THE UNIVERSE

This is pretty simple. Once you're clear on what you want, ask the Universe! When I'm trying to manifest something, I try to ask when I'm alone. Whether I'm on a walk, on my lunch break or before I go to sleep. I concentrate completely on what I'm asking for, making sure I'm really clear and present in the moment. 

Also be careful how you ask. Can you see the difference in these questions?

-Universe, I don't want to suck on the presentation I have tomorrow. (Don't use any negative words.) 

-Universe, I want to do really well on the presentation tomorrow. (Okay, but always good to add some gratitude) 

-Universe, I'm so thankful that I'm going to ace my presentation tomorrow. (A lot more powerful!) 

What you can also do, is speak like it's already happened:

-Universe, I'm so thankful that I did an amazing job on my presentation. (The most powerful!) 

3. VISUALIZE

I love visualising, because not only is it exciting, but it also puts you on a great vibration, allowing you to attract good things into your life easily. 

There are two ways to visualise:

The first: Visualising after you have asked for something specific.

Focus on whatever that is. Try not to let your mind wander, you don't want to confuse yourself or the Universe. Try to separate asking for different things. For example: I wouldn't say, Universe, I really want to land a role in a comedy series, attract more money and go on a holiday. I would seperate them, whether it's by hours or days, just make sure you give each dream it's own time. 

The second: Flexible visualising.

Visualising can be really flexible. Allow your mind to soar! Sometimes before bed I will visualise how I want my next day to go, or maybe even the next week. I imagine all the amazing things that are going to happen and all the amazing opportunities that are going to come my way. I don't focus on anything in particular, just a whole heap of good stuff! 

This is a good way of visualising if you're not quite sure what you want. You might think 'I just want to be happy, and I want to attract good things.' Well lie there and imagine all the things that make you feel good flowing into your life. This is exciting because you will start noticing coincidences and situations in your life that make you really happy, yet you never manifested the situation in particular, you just manifested the feeling. 

Also, in moments when you're visualising and you quiet your mind, you are able to receive answers you didn't even know you were searching for.

4. ACT 'AS IF'

Acting 'as if' is quite hard, but once you get in the flow of it, it really works! This means acting as if you have whatever you're trying to manifest.

Say if it's a new car. Every time you go to leave your house, get excited as you would if your new car was waiting outside for you to drive. If you're trying to manifest more money, act as if you have money! Spend the extra $2 for fries with your burger, pay for the hotel with the sea view, donate to charity! The more you give, the more you get back. If you're constantly on a budget and saying things like 'I have no money,' 'I'm poor,' 'I can't afford it,' well then you're really not helping yourself. All the Universe hears is poor, can't and no money. Just like a Google search, the Universe hears your key words and sends more of that your way! 

5. YOU HAVE PLACED YOUR ORDER, NOW RELAX

I read in 'The Secret', that once you ask the Universe for what you want, treat it just like you have placed an order online. Say you have just purchased a t-shirt online. You've paid for it and got the conformation email. It's yours right? You would 100% believe in your mind that it's coming to you. 

Treat the Universe the same. It's coming. It's nearly here. It's yours.  

6. ENJOY AND BE THANKFUL

I say this a lot because it's really important. If you can't be thankful for what you have NOW, you will never attract anything new and exciting into your life. If you're reading this blog, you must have some kind of device. That's something to start with, if you have a computer, phone or iPad you're lucky! 

You need to get yourself to a place where you're 100%, completely and utterly in love and thankful for EVERYTHING in your life. Even the negative stuff. The negative stuff in life helps us grow and appreciate the good stuff! 

7. RECIEVE

This step seems so easy, but it's a little misleading. At the end of it all, you will receive what you have manifested! HOW EXCITING! You literally turned your dreams into reality with your mind, all because you believed you could. 

NOW, I want to share something that happened to me. I manifested something amazing into my life and then when it came, I freaked out. I thought I wasn't good enough and thought they had made a mistake choosing me. (P.s. if you struggle with self-doubt, read this blog.) 

So I basically rejected receiving and then guess what happened? They took it away from me! It was all my fault though, I look back and completely understand why everything happened how it did. 

When you receive, you need to receive with gracious, confident and accepting arms! Be thankful and know that this is meant for you and work forward with it.

FUN FACT: 

Do you know it is as easy to attract $5 than it is to attract $5 million? It's true! The only thing that's stopping you is your mind. If you can attract something small, you can attract something big.

The Universe doesn't recognise big or little - that's a human concept, it simply recognises what you want, and delivers it to you. (If you know and trust the process.)

Cleo xx