Missing Steps in the Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is a Universal law which allows us to manifest WHATEVER we want into our lives. The 3 steps are said to be ASK, BELIEVE, RECEIVE. 

However, after years of being obsessed with the Law of Attraction and the infinite possibilities that the Universe has available to us, I have figured out a few steps that are constantly missed or looked over. 

If you have given the Law of Attraction a go and have been disappointed with the result, then maybe you're missing a few of these crucial steps. I won't go into detail about the original steps, ask, believe and receive, but if you're new to the Law of Attraction and want to know more about these steps, read this blog here and then come back to this blog post! 

1. FOCUS

Before the 'ask' step, it is SO important to get focused on exactly what you want. The Universe likes specific and clear visualisations. You can ask for as many things as you want, the Universe doesn't work in quantity's and also doesn't care whether it's sending $20 or $20,000 your way. There is enough abundance, happiness and amazing things out there for everyone. However, separate your desires and ask for one specific thing at a time. After getting clear about exactly what you want, free your space and your mind before asking. It's more powerful to ask in a quiet, peaceful environment, where you're focused and in tune with the Universe and your own energy. 

2. ASK

3. BELIEVE

4. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

It's all well and good to imagine yourself in your new role at work, or in that new car, or with a new partner, but if you don't believe that you can be a great worker, partner etc. then that's not enough. You need to know wholeheartedly that you deserve whatever you're asking for. You need to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF completely. You're good enough. You're capable enough and you're ready! 

5. SURRENDER

This is a huge one, and the lady who taught me all about this, is the amazing Gabrielle Bernstein. Don't try and control your wish. For example: Say you want a promotion at work. You ask the Universe while meditating, you really believe you're good enough for the role, you see yourself in the role and create the feelings of excitement through your body, tricking your brain into thinking that these visualisations are real life.

Then you keep thinking about it, and how it might come about. Maybe Matt from accounts will go away on a holiday and you will step in and keep the role, maybe the sales will go through the roof and they will need two people in that role, and you obsess over how this wish of yours will come into reality. The Universe ALWAYS knows the quickest, and best option for you. Often, the Universe has an even BETTER plan for you. A mantra I use is: I accept this, or something better. Surrendering to the Universe can be really difficult, because when we want something it's natural to keep thinking and obsessing over that thing. However, we have to make a conscious effort to let go of our desire and TRUST that the Universe knows the best way. Trying to control your desire gets in the way of the Universe's plan. Don't underestimate it's power. 

6. RECEIVE 

7. GRATITUDE  

I am guilty of receiving and not being grateful. In one instance, I actually had my desire taken away from me! When I received this desire, I was excited but kept second guessing it. "Why did they choose me?" "The role will probably be cut from the show." "I won't believe it until I'm on set." Well, the Universe heard me loud and clear and took my desire straight off me!

Luckily I am getting better at tuning into a positive frequency quickly and attracting the things I want. Because of this, I was actually able to manifest this desire back, which was pretty crazy! But the point is, gratitude is one of the highest vibrations you can put out into the Universe, so to me, it NEEDS to be included in the Law of Attraction. It's also pretty simple. After receiving, THANK the Universe. Accept your desire you have just manifested with open, accepting and GRATEFUL arms, knowing that you deserve it. 

I hope you enjoyed this blog! Please hit the love heart button if it helped you, and feel free to get in contact via the contact page if you have a burning desire for me to write about a certain topic! 

Cleo xx

Staying Focused

What is focus to you? Focus to me is remaining in alignment, staying positive and sticking to my goals! When I am completely focused on those three elements of my life, everything else seems to fall into place. I have clarity, I feel good and exciting things happen! 

I think we can all agree that moving forward, whether it be in your career, relationship, booking a holiday or even things like getting your tax done, brings on good feelings. If you're like me, it will give you a sense of pride and motivates you even more to keep going and to keep creating your life just how you want it!

However, we are all human and staying focused on things you want 24/7 isn't easy. If you read my blog, you will know that focusing on what you want is THE most important thing you can do. Why? Because whether you believe it or not, the Law of Attraction is always working. It depends on what you're focusing on as to whether the Law of Attraction is working to your advantage or disadvantage. The book, The Universe Has Your Back says; 'Where your attention goes, energy flows.' If you focus on the bad, you get the bad and more bad, but if you focus on the good, you get the good and more good! 

Now, let's talk about getting focused and staying focused (most of the time.) I'm not going to exaggerate and say, 'If you really work on it you can be focused 100% of the time for the rest of your life and be a positivity focused superhuman.' Let's be realistic here and work on staying focused the majority of the time. 

Most times, we lapse out of focus when we're feeling generally negative or down, after a weekend of partying or from tiredness or self doubt. When we're in this state of mind, the last thing we can be bothered doing is making an effort to turn our lazy and negative state of mind around. But this is the most important part! It's so easy to mope around, eat badly, have a cry, watch reality TV and aimlessly scroll through social media. Or how many of you have said 'I'll start tomorrow'? It's in these times you need to decide how you want to feel and how important it is to get to that. Do you want to feel happy? Inspired? Creative? Abundant? Positive? Motivated? Proud? Well my friend, you can feel all of that!

First of all YOU need to figure out what you want to focus on. I mentioned what I wanted to focus on above. You might notice that I haven't written down things like; family, relationship, career. When I focus on staying in alignment, remaining positive etc. my focus is controlled and things like family, my relationship and career all benefit and fall into place, because I feel good inside and I have the time, energy and love to give to those things. 

What do you want/need to focus on? It's time to write it down! I can't stress this enough! I read so many books on positivity and self love, and they all mention how important it is putting pen to paper. It's making it official and putting it out there into the Universe. Take your time.

Now that you know what you need to focus on, here are 7 ways to STAY focused. 

Reminders

Constantly remind yourself with post-it notes on your mirror, fridge, laptop etc. Have you ever felt the need to do or accomplish something so strongly, for example, 'I need to eat healthy. From tomorrow I am going to eat so well, this is so important to me and I'm GOING to make it happen,' then all of a sudden the next day when you're hungry and craving bad foods it doesn't seem that important anymore? Posting reminders everywhere helps your mind remember that sense of importance you once had and will help you stay on track. 

A healthy morning and night time routine! 

Going on your phone and scrolling through social media or playing games isn't the best way to start or end your day. Instead, focus on being present. Being present, whether it be chatting with your family/room mate/partner, reading, or meditating means the difference in your day being an okay one, to a productive, positive and focused one!  

Don't push yourself.

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is take time out to watch some mindless TV, or go for a walk. At the time, you might think, no I need to keep focused and get this done, but by exhausting yourself, you're not going to produce good work and you're going to end up overwhelmed. Don't feel guilty about taking time out. 

Checklists. 

Lists bring a sense of accomplishment and also ensures you did everything you set out to do. For me, checking off my list of big and little jobs clears my head. 

Meditation.

Speaks for itself. If you're not a meditator, I highly recommend starting. I used to think meditating was a waste of time... until I tried it and literally have never felt so clear, calm and present in my life! (If you're a beginner, find some guided meditations on Youtube.) 

Prioritising Importance.

Write down what is most important to you and figure out which areas you need to dedicate the most time and attention to. 

Listening to your heart!

What do you think the most about? What do you desire? What gets you excited? What gets you motivated? THAT is your life purpose. There is a reason that the old saying 'listen to your heart' has been around so long. It's so simple and so important. Deep down we all know what we want, don't ignore those feelings and don't waste time. Act now! 

Cleo xx

All photos, as per usual by Natalie Imgraben!