Reject Rejection

 
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REJECTION. A word that brings on fear for almost anyone.

How you perceive rejection is your choice. You can choose to feel sorry for yourself, fear that you’ve wasted your time, fall into a pattern of self doubt and second guess everything you did, or you can be thankful for what you learnt along the way, remind yourself that it isn’t personal, and believe that this rejection is just making room so that something better can make its way into your life.

I’m here to tell you, that you’re way too good to be rejected. By anyone, or anything. I’m here to tell you, that you have every right to reject rejection! However, keep in mind that sometimes we’re meant to be rejected. Sometimes the rejection is fair or right. By ‘rejecting rejection,’ I mean two different things depending on the situation; 1. To stand up for yourself if you know in your heart it’s right and worth fighting for, and 2. To accept that whatever has rejected you has happened for a reason, and move forward with optimism, knowing that the Universe has your back.

Just like dwelling on negativity has its risks, dwelling on rejection does too, because essentially, rejection is negative, and we all know that when we focus on the negative we attract the negative. Choose to stand up for yourself and fight for what you strongly believe is right, or choose to let it go.

So, how do we know if we should fight or let it go? Well, you’re the only person who can decide that, and I believe you can get the answer by listening to your heart. It’s one of the most powerful human skills we can learn and the most reliable source when seeking answers. How many times have you thought ‘ahhh, I should have listened to my gut?!’ Often, our initial gut feeling is correct, and we have to learn to listen intuitively to ourselves, in order to live a free flowing life. We also have to take who or what is rejecting us into account. If it’s a person, often we need to respect their decision. In saying that, some relationships, friendships or work relationships are worth fighting for. If you lose out on getting a job, a promotion or don’t win a competition or an award, sometimes it’s best to let it go. However in some circumstances, if you really feel it’s right, fight for it!

As Gabby Bernstein says, ‘obstacles are detours in the right direction.’ Sometimes rejection, no matter how bad, wrong or unfair it seems at the time, will end up for the better. Majority of the time it does. It might be so you can learn valuable life lessons like, patience, gratitude, forgiveness or true love. It might be so that you can meet the right person, or get the right job, it might allow you to spend more time on an assignment or project so it leads to a better result which will then lead to something else! The Universe always has a better plan and can see possibilities that we can’t yet see.

There are so many reasons as to why you may be rejected in your lifetime. Choose to look at it through the eyes of optimism rather than through the eyes of fear and disappointment.

Self-love and the Law of Attraction also come into play with rejection. Often we can attract rejection through the fear of being rejected. It is completely natural, but to eliminate rejection from your life, you must change your thought process. Start by practicing self-love. Make time to meditate, journal and say your thank you’s for who you are and what you love about yourself. Do whatever it takes to become more confident in your own skin, skills and personality. If you feel like you need to practice more self-love, check out my blog on it here.

The Law of Attraction is an incredible way to focus on the positives, on what you do want, instead of what you don’t want. With the Law of Attraction, you can eliminate all thoughts of ‘fearing rejection’ by replacing them with thoughts of landing the job, winning the award, falling in love etc. Next time you find yourself in a negative thought pattern, worrying about getting rejected and not being good enough, GET RID OF IT! Focus on how competent, amazing, incredible and deserving you are of great relationships, opportunities and circumstances. More on the Law of Attraction in another blog here.

Rejection provides an opportunity to grow, learn and become a more understanding, patient and hardworking human. If you look hard enough, there are always positives in a negative! - pass around the smile

Cleo xx

 
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Get Rid of Self Doubt - Time For You to Shine!

Ever notice those people who are literally shining? They glow, constantly smile and seem to have a really positive affect on people around them? Well, you can be one of those people and I can tell you exactly when you will become one of those people...

 
 

We can all make a little bit of effort here and there, try to believe in ourselves, do some positive self talk, maybe begin to accept our flaws. Nope, sorry that's not enough. You need to COMPLETELY believe in yourself. COMPLETELY love yourself. You can't just tell yourself you're amazing with words but keep thinking negatively.

You need to do whatever it takes to help yourself realise that you're amazing, capable, strong, independent, courageous and competent.

You need to get rid of self doubt.

Unfortunately it's hard to get rid of self doubt completely. Among the thousands of thoughts we have in a day, we're going to have a few bad ones here and there. Just don't give them the time of day. Blow them a sassy kiss goodbye. 

It's the beginning of 2018, it's time to make some changes. It's time to become who you want to be, and to do exactly what you want to do. Letting go of self doubt will speed up this process immensely. 

I can't stress how important this is. The Law of Attraction won't work for you unless you completely believe that you're capable and deserving of what you want. No matter how much visualising, and work with the Law of Attraction you do... if you let self doubt take over, your subconscious will block the overall process. 

If you want to fast forward your life into a spiral of happiness, good things, great people and amazing experiences, then here are some steps that will help you get there, and fast!  

BE BRAVE

This is SO vital. You need to be so brave, so brave that it gives you butterflies and scares you a real lot! Nothing exciting, incredible and invigorating has ever come from comfort zones. 

So many times we sit on ideas because we're scared of judgment, failure or embarrassment. Well it's time to let that go, you can either live a life that isn't completely true to you, and live with regret and 'what ifs,' or you can give it a go! 

Ask yourself... whats the worst that could happen? You get judged? Well those people judging you are either jealous or not happy within themselves. Scared of failure? Well I think that you should fear regret more than failure, and failure is a part of success. I can guarantee every idol of yours has experienced failure. I read an amazing quote the other day, it was... "Failure is a bruise, not a tattoo." 

 
 

POSITIVE SELF TALK

Our body is filled with 60-70% water, and it has been proven by scientists all over the world that water is affected positively and negatively by words and emotions projected its way. So imagine what negative self talk is doing to your body. 

It's so easy to get angry with yourself. 'I'm stupid,' 'I suck at this,' 'I can't do this.' These words are so damaging to us. We are made up of energy, and you're only turning what energy you have inside of you to nasty and negative energy. It is natural to have upsetting thoughts but you need to make an effort to change them instantly. You need to tell yourself 'I can do this,' 'I am capable of this,' 'this is what I am meant to do,' 'I am thankful for the Universe's help and guidance.' Keep saying it until you believe it. 

Words are so powerful, and can not only change the energy and water patterns in your body, but can change your mood in a second, ushering in the good energy that you need and want. 

 
 

GET STARTED 

This is a big one. How many times have you had an idea, got really excited about it, and then gone on your phone and started scrolling? Or turned on the TV? Maybe went out with your friends and put it off. Yes, whatever you want to do is going to take effort, yes it's going to be a little difficult, yes it's going to take time. 

Let's take our minds back to a time we felt really proud of ourselves. Maybe you got on A on an exam you studied really hard for. Maybe something you worked on got published, maybe you finished a class or a course. Feeling proud of yourself is such an amazing feeling and helps you get on an amazing frequency which helps attract other incredible things. 

YOU can get yourself there. YOU have the power to achieve whatever you want. YOU have the resources and the mind power to start something. You'll feel so proud and accomplished that you will get yourself on a positive streak and attract things that you once thought weren't possible. Isn't that exciting?

So moral of the story, get started now OKAY?! Be so brave it scares you, and motivate yourself kindly. YOU are your biggest cheerleader, so help yourself out! 

Cleo xx