Self Love 101

Loving yourself completely, will change everything. 

It's time to be the best version of YOU, and to do that you have to absolutely, whole heartedly love and believe in yourself like crazy. It's not vain to do so, it's actually humble. Show thanks to the Universe, God, Buddha (whoever you believe in), that you're so thankful that they made you, YOU. 

We all have special qualities, features and characteristics which make us individual. It's natural to compare, judge and hate on ourselves for the things that make us feel ugly, self conscious or not good enough. What a lot of people don't realise, is hiding these things, or hating on these things, does not do us any favours. In this blog, I am going to help you with a few techniques and examples to transform your views and ideas of yourself.

"Demonstrate love by giving it, unconditionally, to yourself. And as you do, you will attract others into your life who will love you without conditions." - Paul Ferrini 
 
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YOU

First things first. YOU are incredible. There is someone in this world, whether you know them or not, who admires you. They might admire your sense of humour, your hair, your style, your legs or your charisma. Just like you admire things about other people, people admire things about you. 

I don't know about you, but there have been a few times where I have said something like 'uhh, my hair looks so dry,' or 'this dress doesn't suit my body type,' and whoever I'm with, will have the complete opposite opinion. Not because they're lying to make me feel better, but because we are all SO picky and hard on ourselves, and majority of the time nobody else would notice or care about these tiny things we obsess and feel self conscious over. Think about it the other way around. How many times has a friend said something and you've thought 'I have never even noticed that spot on your face,' or 'I love your freckles, I can't believe you hate them!'

Next time you're feeling self conscious about something, remind yourself that you are the only one judging. (If other people are judging, then you don't need those people in your life, and judging only comes from jealousy.)

EXAMPLE: I used to absolutely hate the gap in my two front teeth and I was willing to spend thousands on braces to get rid of it. I was holding off because of money and auditions, and in the meantime, I started to notice a lot of people complimenting my gap. Now, other people's opinions shouldn't change yours, but in this instance it made me feel a little more confident. I forgot about it for a while, and I started to make an effort to love my gap. I would see it in photos, and instead of looking at it with disgust, I would look at it and be thankful. I liked that it was different and I liked how it shaped my face. Overtime, I genuinely and completely learned to love and accept my gap!
 
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An exercise to assist Self Love 

Lie down alone, somewhere quiet and peaceful. Close your eyes, and focus on your breathing. Once you have come to a place of calm, imagine yourself standing in an empty room. See yourself come out of your body, and rise above. You're now looking down at you, but from an outsiders point of view. You're not you anymore, so you don't have to feel uncomfortable complimenting yourself. Now go crazy. Really look at yourself, and force yourself to realise what you love about yourself. When you see something you don't like, be thankful for it and force yourself to see the beauty in it. 

Self love doesn't just make you feel comfortable in your own skin, it also opens you up to so many more opportunities, relationships and circumstances that you block when you're in a state of self consciousness. Now, you're not going to change, unless you truly want to change. Decide that feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin and attracting amazing new opportunities and people is important to you. This literally makes me so excited writing this! I can't wait until you see changes! 

YOU are the most important person in your life

Again, this is not selfish. YOU are the most important person in your life, because in order to help and be there for the ones you love, you have to be completely happy and in tune with yourself. To do this, you have to love yourself. Self love needs to be a priority. If everyone loved and accepted themselves, there would be no competing and no judgement. When you're happy within yourself and in a state of alignment and gratitude, you're constantly giving love, positivity and happiness, and the world needs more of that.

Because she competes with no one, no one can compete with her. - Lao Tze
 
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Help others love themselves! 

Helping other people feels good, and when you help others it will always come back to you. I make an effort to compliment my family, friends and strangers as much as I can. Not only does it boost their confidence and put a smile on their face, but it also helps you have realisations about yourself that you might not have been open to before. 

Forgive your mistakes.

We all make mistakes, big and small. While exploring self love, you must remember to be kind to yourself and easily forgive. It's very easy to stress and feel guilty over something you've done, but I'm here to tell you something... that is a waste of time and energy! You made that mistake for a reason, and one day soon it will all make sense. For now... be kind, forgive yourself and move on. 

Protect yourself and your energy! 

Be careful who you surround yourself with! Make a conscious effort to limit negative situations and people in your life. If you have to be in these situations or around these people, KILL THEM WITH POSITIVITY AND KINDNESS! (And try your best to not let them drain or affect your amazing energy!) 

 
Positivity Self Love Cleo Massey
 

Enjoy life!

We feel good when we're doing things that make us happy right?! It's much easier to practice self love when you're surrounded by the people and situations you want! So get yourself to that! Do whatever it takes to get the job you want, surround yourself with the people that lift you up, not bring you down! Create a life that YOU love. Don't worry about what others think. It's a pretty amazing world, and we can make of it whatever we like. 

Have fun, be bold, be YOU!

Cle xxx 

Get Rid of Self Doubt - Time For You to Shine!

Ever notice those people who are literally shining? They glow, constantly smile and seem to have a really positive affect on people around them? Well, you can be one of those people and I can tell you exactly when you will become one of those people...

 
 

We can all make a little bit of effort here and there, try to believe in ourselves, do some positive self talk, maybe begin to accept our flaws. Nope, sorry that's not enough. You need to COMPLETELY believe in yourself. COMPLETELY love yourself. You can't just tell yourself you're amazing with words but keep thinking negatively.

You need to do whatever it takes to help yourself realise that you're amazing, capable, strong, independent, courageous and competent.

You need to get rid of self doubt.

Unfortunately it's hard to get rid of self doubt completely. Among the thousands of thoughts we have in a day, we're going to have a few bad ones here and there. Just don't give them the time of day. Blow them a sassy kiss goodbye. 

It's the beginning of 2018, it's time to make some changes. It's time to become who you want to be, and to do exactly what you want to do. Letting go of self doubt will speed up this process immensely. 

I can't stress how important this is. The Law of Attraction won't work for you unless you completely believe that you're capable and deserving of what you want. No matter how much visualising, and work with the Law of Attraction you do... if you let self doubt take over, your subconscious will block the overall process. 

If you want to fast forward your life into a spiral of happiness, good things, great people and amazing experiences, then here are some steps that will help you get there, and fast!  

BE BRAVE

This is SO vital. You need to be so brave, so brave that it gives you butterflies and scares you a real lot! Nothing exciting, incredible and invigorating has ever come from comfort zones. 

So many times we sit on ideas because we're scared of judgment, failure or embarrassment. Well it's time to let that go, you can either live a life that isn't completely true to you, and live with regret and 'what ifs,' or you can give it a go! 

Ask yourself... whats the worst that could happen? You get judged? Well those people judging you are either jealous or not happy within themselves. Scared of failure? Well I think that you should fear regret more than failure, and failure is a part of success. I can guarantee every idol of yours has experienced failure. I read an amazing quote the other day, it was... "Failure is a bruise, not a tattoo." 

 
 

POSITIVE SELF TALK

Our body is filled with 60-70% water, and it has been proven by scientists all over the world that water is affected positively and negatively by words and emotions projected its way. So imagine what negative self talk is doing to your body. 

It's so easy to get angry with yourself. 'I'm stupid,' 'I suck at this,' 'I can't do this.' These words are so damaging to us. We are made up of energy, and you're only turning what energy you have inside of you to nasty and negative energy. It is natural to have upsetting thoughts but you need to make an effort to change them instantly. You need to tell yourself 'I can do this,' 'I am capable of this,' 'this is what I am meant to do,' 'I am thankful for the Universe's help and guidance.' Keep saying it until you believe it. 

Words are so powerful, and can not only change the energy and water patterns in your body, but can change your mood in a second, ushering in the good energy that you need and want. 

 
 

GET STARTED 

This is a big one. How many times have you had an idea, got really excited about it, and then gone on your phone and started scrolling? Or turned on the TV? Maybe went out with your friends and put it off. Yes, whatever you want to do is going to take effort, yes it's going to be a little difficult, yes it's going to take time. 

Let's take our minds back to a time we felt really proud of ourselves. Maybe you got on A on an exam you studied really hard for. Maybe something you worked on got published, maybe you finished a class or a course. Feeling proud of yourself is such an amazing feeling and helps you get on an amazing frequency which helps attract other incredible things. 

YOU can get yourself there. YOU have the power to achieve whatever you want. YOU have the resources and the mind power to start something. You'll feel so proud and accomplished that you will get yourself on a positive streak and attract things that you once thought weren't possible. Isn't that exciting?

So moral of the story, get started now OKAY?! Be so brave it scares you, and motivate yourself kindly. YOU are your biggest cheerleader, so help yourself out! 

Cleo xx