Self Love 101

Loving yourself completely, will change everything. 

It's time to be the best version of YOU, and to do that you have to absolutely, whole heartedly love and believe in yourself like crazy. It's not vain to do so, it's actually humble. Show thanks to the Universe, God, Buddha (whoever you believe in), that you're so thankful that they made you, YOU. 

We all have special qualities, features and characteristics which make us individual. It's natural to compare, judge and hate on ourselves for the things that make us feel ugly, self conscious or not good enough. What a lot of people don't realise, is hiding these things, or hating on these things, does not do us any favours. In this blog, I am going to help you with a few techniques and examples to transform your views and ideas of yourself.

"Demonstrate love by giving it, unconditionally, to yourself. And as you do, you will attract others into your life who will love you without conditions." - Paul Ferrini 
 
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YOU

First things first. YOU are incredible. There is someone in this world, whether you know them or not, who admires you. They might admire your sense of humour, your hair, your style, your legs or your charisma. Just like you admire things about other people, people admire things about you. 

I don't know about you, but there have been a few times where I have said something like 'uhh, my hair looks so dry,' or 'this dress doesn't suit my body type,' and whoever I'm with, will have the complete opposite opinion. Not because they're lying to make me feel better, but because we are all SO picky and hard on ourselves, and majority of the time nobody else would notice or care about these tiny things we obsess and feel self conscious over. Think about it the other way around. How many times has a friend said something and you've thought 'I have never even noticed that spot on your face,' or 'I love your freckles, I can't believe you hate them!'

Next time you're feeling self conscious about something, remind yourself that you are the only one judging. (If other people are judging, then you don't need those people in your life, and judging only comes from jealousy.)

EXAMPLE: I used to absolutely hate the gap in my two front teeth and I was willing to spend thousands on braces to get rid of it. I was holding off because of money and auditions, and in the meantime, I started to notice a lot of people complimenting my gap. Now, other people's opinions shouldn't change yours, but in this instance it made me feel a little more confident. I forgot about it for a while, and I started to make an effort to love my gap. I would see it in photos, and instead of looking at it with disgust, I would look at it and be thankful. I liked that it was different and I liked how it shaped my face. Overtime, I genuinely and completely learned to love and accept my gap!
 
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An exercise to assist Self Love 

Lie down alone, somewhere quiet and peaceful. Close your eyes, and focus on your breathing. Once you have come to a place of calm, imagine yourself standing in an empty room. See yourself come out of your body, and rise above. You're now looking down at you, but from an outsiders point of view. You're not you anymore, so you don't have to feel uncomfortable complimenting yourself. Now go crazy. Really look at yourself, and force yourself to realise what you love about yourself. When you see something you don't like, be thankful for it and force yourself to see the beauty in it. 

Self love doesn't just make you feel comfortable in your own skin, it also opens you up to so many more opportunities, relationships and circumstances that you block when you're in a state of self consciousness. Now, you're not going to change, unless you truly want to change. Decide that feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin and attracting amazing new opportunities and people is important to you. This literally makes me so excited writing this! I can't wait until you see changes! 

YOU are the most important person in your life

Again, this is not selfish. YOU are the most important person in your life, because in order to help and be there for the ones you love, you have to be completely happy and in tune with yourself. To do this, you have to love yourself. Self love needs to be a priority. If everyone loved and accepted themselves, there would be no competing and no judgement. When you're happy within yourself and in a state of alignment and gratitude, you're constantly giving love, positivity and happiness, and the world needs more of that.

Because she competes with no one, no one can compete with her. - Lao Tze
 
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Help others love themselves! 

Helping other people feels good, and when you help others it will always come back to you. I make an effort to compliment my family, friends and strangers as much as I can. Not only does it boost their confidence and put a smile on their face, but it also helps you have realisations about yourself that you might not have been open to before. 

Forgive your mistakes.

We all make mistakes, big and small. While exploring self love, you must remember to be kind to yourself and easily forgive. It's very easy to stress and feel guilty over something you've done, but I'm here to tell you something... that is a waste of time and energy! You made that mistake for a reason, and one day soon it will all make sense. For now... be kind, forgive yourself and move on. 

Protect yourself and your energy! 

Be careful who you surround yourself with! Make a conscious effort to limit negative situations and people in your life. If you have to be in these situations or around these people, KILL THEM WITH POSITIVITY AND KINDNESS! (And try your best to not let them drain or affect your amazing energy!) 

 
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Enjoy life!

We feel good when we're doing things that make us happy right?! It's much easier to practice self love when you're surrounded by the people and situations you want! So get yourself to that! Do whatever it takes to get the job you want, surround yourself with the people that lift you up, not bring you down! Create a life that YOU love. Don't worry about what others think. It's a pretty amazing world, and we can make of it whatever we like. 

Have fun, be bold, be YOU!

Cle xxx 

Thoughts Become Things

Did you know our brains can't distinguish the difference between imagination and reality? This means, that you can trick your mind into creating whatever you want. It sounds too good to be true, but I and hundreds of the best scientists around the world (like how I just casually put myself in the bracket of one of the best scientists in the world), can tell you that it IS true. The things you think about, you bring about. 

 
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ALRIGHT, HOW DO I START?

Believe. 

A lot of us use the Law of Attraction without realising, which means a lot of us already trick our minds and bring what we want into reality without knowing. For example, you might have thought in the past 'It would be so nice if someone took me out to dinner.' You forget about it and then that night or a couple of nights later, someone takes you out to dinner. You think, what a coincidence?! Or maybe you're thinking about an old friend, forget about it and then they message you. YOU brought all of these 'coincidences' into your life. 

Now, this works hand in hand with the Law of Attraction, which says to ASK, BELIEVE and RECEIVE. Tricking your mind comes under the BELIEVE part. For example; say you want your boss to love the presentation you've been working on. ASK the Universe something like, 'Universe, I ask that you help and guide me so that I can complete this presentation in a way that will impress my boss beyond words.'

Next, you want to believe... now is the time to really imagine, pretend you're a child playing with your toys and creating this surreal world around you. Imagine your Boss' voice, telling you what you want to hear, feel the feeling of receiving that news. Imagine yourself celebrating with a bottle of champagne afterwards. Really see it, feel it and believe it. 

Receiving is actually one of the trickiest parts of the Law of Attraction, but this blog isn't about that. If you're interested in a more in depth description of the blocks that surround receiving, check this blog out. 

This blog is about your thoughts! So... 

 
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You've Started... Now What?!

Take control of your thoughts. 

I've said this a number of times, but in case you're a new reader I'll say it again. We have 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day, so there is no way you can control all of your thoughts. Not even Oprah could do that. Actually, Oprah might be able to do that. Oprah could probably do that, she is amazing. But seriously, don't feel guilty about the negative thoughts you have. It's natural. It's annoying and puts a damper on your day, but sometimes we just can't help it. 

What you can do is this. Choose which thoughts to give your attention too. Thought 1: Your friend Jack is really annoying you. Thought 2: Jack really helped you when you were going through a hard time. It's pretty obvious which thought you should give your focus too right? When someone or something is annoying you or creating negative thoughts in your mind, turn it around. Don't give it a second. Always focus on the good. No matter how bad your mood and thoughts are that day, you can always turn a negative thought into a positive one.

Once you change that initial negative thought it will build. Let's go back to Jack helping you in the past. You then might think how good he made you feel at that time, because of how good you felt, you were able to come out of that rut, because Jack helped you out of that rut, you then landed a new job. One good thought stems to another good thought and once you keep building on that, the energy inside of you becomes positive and magnetic. You're now what they call 'in alignment.'

 
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Being in Alignment

What does that mean?!

You will know when you're in alignment. You will feel INCREDIBLE, good things will happen to and around you, coincidences will occur all the time and life will feel exciting and simple, like a wave that keeps rolling in the right direction. 

You have the power to get yourself in alignment no matter the day, time or mood you're in. Your thoughts are powerful, all you need to do is think about things that make you genuinely happy and build on that. Once you build and build, you will eventually get yourself to a state of alignment. 

Once you're in this state, you can manifest ANYTHING you want. There is no higher vibrational state than being in alignment, while remaining grateful and visualising exactly what you want. 

NOTE: You have to believe these thoughts. It does take effort. Thinking 'I am a happy person, everyone wants to be around me' while crying and hating on yourself won't work. Changing your thought pattern and believing it can be the most important thing in your life. 

 
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How Changing Your Thoughts Will Change Your Life

& examples...

Changing your thoughts to happy and positive thoughts will make you shine on the inside and the outside. When you're truly happy, you will naturally attract good people, good things and good circumstances. By attracting good things, only better things will follow. 

Once you're in alignment and thinking positively, guess what you're doing? Tricking your mind into changing your thoughts to things! It's actually pretty simple, the key is just to BE happy. To BE happy, you have to focus on the POSITIVE. Focusing on the positive and creating exciting visualisations of what you want in your mind, WILL become your reality. 

You have the power and the sooner you start, the sooner you'll get what you want. 

I wanted to share a personal experience I had using the principle of 'your thoughts become things'! I love hearing other people's Law of Attraction success stories, it inspires me so much as you're hearing it first hand! (Whenever you're feeling a bit negative or searching for some inspiration type into Youtube, LOA Success Stories.) 

SO, the other day something really amazing happened! I was doing a guided meditation on Youtube, and I was visualising the perfect role I want to land in a film. I was imagining myself in the role, on set, at the premiere, etc. I was getting so excited, and really letting my mind wander!

All of a sudden, the letter A popped into my head. I don't know why, but I knew that the role I was about to receive would start with A. Anyway, I forgot about it, went to sleep and the next day went for a walk. While I was walking the name Anna popped into my head. Again, I don't know why it did, but I knew it had something to do with a role. I thought it was weird because that's my Mum's name.

Again, I forgot about it and later that day I got an email from my agent with an audition attached. The character's name that I was going for was Ana! I didn't realise until five minutes later... and then I thought, oh my gosh, I went back to the script to check, and realised that the biggest coincidence had just happened. Yes it was one N instead of two, but who cares! The role also wasn't perfect for me, but any chance to audition is an amazing opportunity. This could open up so many other possibilities and it shows that I am in complete alignment with my thoughts, and I am beginning to attract things! 

Coincidences aren't just coincidences, they're signs from the Universe to let you know you're on the right path. I LOVE COINCIDENCES!  Make sure you listen and watch out for them. They are so powerful as they're created from your thoughts and your mind

Don't underestimate the power of your mind! 

Cleo xx

PHOTOGRAPHY: Natalie Imgraben. Instagram @natalieimgraben

 
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